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> “I believe if I’m “good” enough, nobody will reject me for being “bad” and people will like me.” My philosophy is different. If I know my values are where th
by teaearlgraycold 3y ago
> “I believe if I’m “good” enough, nobody will reject me for being “bad” and people will like me.”
My philosophy is different. If I know my values are where they should be and I live in accordance with them then it does not matter if people like my actions or not. Judgments slide right off. It's an impenetrable armor.
- josephg 3y agoI hear that. I would have said something very similar a few years ago. But now, I think it’s healthy to have our armour penetrated by the world. To be seen. To be vulnerable. To fail and have it fall apart and be able to weep. As far as we know, we will die. And so with everyone we know and love. I don’t want impenetrable emotional armor. I want to, sometimes, sob uncontrollably. Feeling our feelings fully is the only path through life that is truly present with the reality of it all. Being impenetrable is too close to being numb.
- teaearlgraycold 3y agoI'm not saying you should become an emotionless robot. I'm saying you should build a strong foundation and know where to go from there. People will question you along the way. Consider their opinions but always reserve the agency to move your foundation. They don't do that just by scaring you.