Agreed. Or perhaps "we are usually only sexually attracted to people who we believe are or might become sexually attracted to us". My point is that with a ver

Agreed. Or perhaps "we are usually only sexually attracted to people who we believe are or might become sexually attracted to us". My point is that with a very few exceptions[1], apart from the occasional mis-fire or unrequited crush, we go through our life sorting people into "romance target" and "not-romance target", we tend to be very discriminating in our sorting, and gender is not the only criteria used for sorting. [1]: The exceptions mostly involve very high hormones and/or very poor social skills. Example: A heterosexual male, borderline Asperger syndrome, 19 years old, just off to university to study computer science, far far too shy to actually talk to a girl is very prone to being quasi-obsessively attracted to a large number of inappropriate targets[2]. But this is not really a typical human experience[3]. [2]: Yes, I do speak from experience. :) [3]: At the risk of stereotyping, it's probably a little more common among the HN readership than elsewhere though. :)