when beginning a new interaction, I try to remember to "read the room" first, a mostly non-linear/non-verbal process that involves a lot of mimetic movement and

when beginning a new interaction, I try to remember to "read the room" first, a mostly non-linear/non-verbal process that involves a lot of mimetic movement and eye contact that is governed subconsciously. Then I can take part in the dance of chat better. Conversation is often best when it has a fast cadence and a lightness and humor to it. And charming qualities like self-deprecation, showing appreciation, going along with others' vibe etc. Many people here are talking about "sharing" and "listening" - but that can be quite a dull and mechanical back and forth pattern! Facts, opinions and personal anecdotes, far from being the lifeblood of good conversation, tend to weigh it down instead, like pressing pause on the music.