Yeah, this is so true. I read a lot of advice around how I should ask lots of questions etc when I was younger, and I fell into the opposite trap, which is that

Yeah, this is so true. I read a lot of advice around how I should ask lots of questions etc when I was younger, and I fell into the opposite trap, which is that I never shared anything because I was letting other people do all the sharing. The real key is curiosity - do you understand their viewpoint? Really? Really really? Are you just responding to a best guess of what you think it is? But once you really do understand (and they understand that you understand) it's totally fine to talk about some anecdote about yourself if it relates.