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I still have this problem, I have friends but when we talk I often drift to make conversations about them. I think it is a difficult habit to get out of, and it
by plufz 3y ago
I still have this problem, I have friends but when we talk I often drift to make conversations about them. I think it is a difficult habit to get out of, and it feels awkward to say things about myself without getting an explicit question. For a long time I just thought people were rude but nowdays I understand the problem to a big part is with me. I have started to talk more about subjects that interest me since that doesnt make me feel as egocentric as straight up talking about myself. It feels like a step in the right direction…
- taopai 3y agoI had the same problem. It makes sense tot think about it in terms of space. If you never speak about yourself the other person "is taking up all the space". Speaking about yourself, or at least choosing topics proactively can improve your interaction with others. People often want to hear about you, but they prefer to hear about positive or interesting things that happen to you or what's on your mind. For example I love telling funny anecdotes, people love it and they have a great time. The key is to focus on their reaction. If they don't care about your interests or your day you'll know, and don't feel invalidated or get upset. Just change topics and have a good time.