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> And I devoted the last decade of my life to that. Now that's fallen apart and I'm a little lost and it hurts me alot. You have no contact in your bio but I'v

> And I devoted the last decade of my life to that. Now that's fallen apart and I'm a little lost and it hurts me alot. You have no contact in your bio but I've run into this with founders a lot and you need to recognize that what you're going through is a period of grief and mourning. I recommend you look up some books on how grief is processed in breakups or deaths and see if you find points of similarity. Kubler-Ross' "On Death and Dying" is a classic place to start, it's where the "five stages of grief" model was first introduced. Her version of it is a lot more complex than the pop culture, linear understanding that most people have. She mostly talks about the interplay between the five stages and how we ping pong back and forth in interesting ways. Also, FWIW, I've found ChatGPT a remarkably efficient tool to "read" books in an area you're totally unfamiliar with and want a quick download. You start by asking it to give you a broad overview of a book/set of books and then dive into the areas you find the most interesting until you arrive at an actionable framework.

rexpop 3y ago
The year is 2024, and I've just read somerhing like the following comment online: "Sounds like you're going through a period of grief and mourning. I've found computers to be a remarkably efficient prosthetic replacement for processing meaningful experiences with other real, live people." It just breaks my heart, and fills me with despair, to see opportunities for human connection so giddily elided. Radio and television were bad enough. Social media has been bad enough. Now we're selling out the last bastions of compassion—grief and mourning—to be mediated by cynical corporate silicon golems? This is the psychosocial equivalent of a catheter and feeding tube. This is an induced social coma. The wo/man is grieving, for heaven's sake! My advice would be to go have coffee with someone who has read the book! A real live flesh and blood someone. Several such someones! Possibly an entire group or congregation of mourners. We, the grieving, would really appreciate you dropping by.
- shalmanese 3y ago
  The books will tell you to do all that! They're not ready for me to tell them that, they need to be guided on the path to the path to the path.
  - rexpop 3y ago
    Forgive my impatience. :/
- shalmanese 3y ago
  As an experiment, I just went to ChatGPT and tried to solve the problem as if I were OP and here's the result: https://chat.openai.com/share/3f0fe9cd-76ff-44ac-956f-cfb3321543a5 https://chat.openai.com/share/3f0fe9cd-76ff-44ac-956f-cfb332... I certainly found it helpful, even as a basic refresher of the field and I learnt a new thing which is apparently there is no single book that explicitly focuses on helping founders move on which feels like a business opportunity? But also, you can see how I got to a useful place from first principles with the help of an AI. I stopped where I felt I was sufficiently interested that if I were in OPs shoes, I would have just bought the whole book and read it through and I did it in about 15 minutes although I admit I was cheating since I had an end goal in mind already. I've left it for anyone else to go further in whatever direction and close the gap between where I ended and specific advice like you have provided.

rexpop 3y ago

The year is 2024, and I've just read somerhing like the following comment online: "Sounds like you're going through a period of grief and mourning. I've found computers to be a remarkably efficient prosthetic replacement for processing meaningful experiences with other real, live people." It just breaks my heart, and fills me with despair, to see opportunities for human connection so giddily elided. Radio and television were bad enough. Social media has been bad enough. Now we're selling out the last bastions of compassion—grief and mourning—to be mediated by cynical corporate silicon golems? This is the psychosocial equivalent of a catheter and feeding tube. This is an induced social coma. The wo/man is grieving, for heaven's sake! My advice would be to go have coffee with someone who has read the book! A real live flesh and blood someone. Several such someones! Possibly an entire group or congregation of mourners. We, the grieving, would really appreciate you dropping by.

shalmanese 3y ago
The books will tell you to do all that! They're not ready for me to tell them that, they need to be guided on the path to the path to the path.
- rexpop 3y ago
  Forgive my impatience. :/
shalmanese 3y ago
As an experiment, I just went to ChatGPT and tried to solve the problem as if I were OP and here's the result: https://chat.openai.com/share/3f0fe9cd-76ff-44ac-956f-cfb3321543a5 https://chat.openai.com/share/3f0fe9cd-76ff-44ac-956f-cfb332... I certainly found it helpful, even as a basic refresher of the field and I learnt a new thing which is apparently there is no single book that explicitly focuses on helping founders move on which feels like a business opportunity? But also, you can see how I got to a useful place from first principles with the help of an AI. I stopped where I felt I was sufficiently interested that if I were in OPs shoes, I would have just bought the whole book and read it through and I did it in about 15 minutes although I admit I was cheating since I had an end goal in mind already. I've left it for anyone else to go further in whatever direction and close the gap between where I ended and specific advice like you have provided.