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Speak to the manager about your concerns. They are people too, and they improve over time with genuine feedback.

pwython 3y ago
When I managed just a half dozen of people (in a 300 person org), I soaked in every bit of feedback, especially if there were concerns -- whether in our group or at executive level. I get there are some "managers" that just skirt by and don't care, but there's many more that actually want to see the company succeed.
i_am_a_peasant 3y ago
I worked under people who really couldn't take any criticism and I always suffered whenever I opened my mouth. Eventually it did lead me to switch jobs, which is a shame really because there was a great potential for interesting work there but I just couldn't stand the people anymore.
- codetrotter 3y ago
  I was having some communication problems with a coworker not so long ago. I have past experiences that made me unsure about what to do with the situation. I talked with my therapist about it, and thought a lot about what to do. In the end I did three things: 1. I took a couple weeks PTO, to get some time away from the stress. 2. In my performance review self-evaluation, I mentioned that me and my coworker were not aligned. 3. I sent a message to my coworker asking if we could talk about the status of our project and in what direction we are moving. Since then, things have improved greatly. I went from feeling on the brink of burn-out, to feeling that we are working better together now. After I reached out to my coworker, he also took a great number of steps by his own initiative to help improve the situation. I think that probably he was also feeling worn down by the situation and that he may have been wondering what he could do about it as well. If you don't have a therapist to talk to. Find one! That's what I did. I used a third-party wellness platform to find a therapist that I could talk to. I pay for it myself but it is well worth it. One hour per week.
  - i_am_a_peasant 3y ago
    During my performance review all that mattered to management was what my co-worker said about me but it did not matter at all what I said about them, no matter how nicely I tried to put it. The other guy just had too much influence in the company to be criticized. I did 3 weeks PTO and after it came at the peaceful conclusion that it was time to move on.

When I managed just a half dozen of people (in a 300 person org), I soaked in every bit of feedback, especially if there were concerns -- whether in our group or at executive level. I get there are some "managers" that just skirt by and don't care, but there's many more that actually want to see the company succeed.

i_am_a_peasant 3y ago

I worked under people who really couldn't take any criticism and I always suffered whenever I opened my mouth. Eventually it did lead me to switch jobs, which is a shame really because there was a great potential for interesting work there but I just couldn't stand the people anymore.

codetrotter 3y ago
I was having some communication problems with a coworker not so long ago. I have past experiences that made me unsure about what to do with the situation. I talked with my therapist about it, and thought a lot about what to do. In the end I did three things: 1. I took a couple weeks PTO, to get some time away from the stress. 2. In my performance review self-evaluation, I mentioned that me and my coworker were not aligned. 3. I sent a message to my coworker asking if we could talk about the status of our project and in what direction we are moving. Since then, things have improved greatly. I went from feeling on the brink of burn-out, to feeling that we are working better together now. After I reached out to my coworker, he also took a great number of steps by his own initiative to help improve the situation. I think that probably he was also feeling worn down by the situation and that he may have been wondering what he could do about it as well. If you don't have a therapist to talk to. Find one! That's what I did. I used a third-party wellness platform to find a therapist that I could talk to. I pay for it myself but it is well worth it. One hour per week.
- i_am_a_peasant 3y ago
  During my performance review all that mattered to management was what my co-worker said about me but it did not matter at all what I said about them, no matter how nicely I tried to put it. The other guy just had too much influence in the company to be criticized. I did 3 weeks PTO and after it came at the peaceful conclusion that it was time to move on.