> You've found your mate, so less incentive to go to the gym / stay in shape. This is a common trope, like the boomer "I hate my wife" meme, but it's such a ba

> You've found your mate, so less incentive to go to the gym / stay in shape. This is a common trope, like the boomer "I hate my wife" meme, but it's such a bad attitude. For us, it's been more incentive to stay in shape. You have someone that you care about, and it's unfair to them to pull a bait-and-switch and get fat after you've committed to each other. Your spouse deserves to be married to a hottie. Also you should want to be around and in good health for each other and your kids for as long as you can. We both quit drinking when we started having kids. Her for obvious reasons. Me for solidarity I suppose, but then also because once they're here, they're a 12 hour job every day, and you never know if they'll wake up and need you after bedtime, so there's no good time for alcohol anyway.