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Not cheesy at all. I wish I could enjoy the same thing, but when it comes to showing kindness to others I often end up feeling used.

• makingstuffs 3y ago
  I’m sorry to hear that, it’s a really hard mindset to grasp and we all falter here and there. I can’t speak for anyone else (I don’t know your particular situation and do not want to assume anything) but I found that doing something for the sake of doing it was one of they key things that helped me overcome a feeling of being used/unappreciated. In my personal experience and with a lot of introspection I found that the reason I had that feeling was that I personally had painted a picture of what gratitude should look and feel like when, in reality, we all express gratitude in different ways. By painting that picture I had essentially built up an expectation as to what the outcome of my actions would be, and when that expectation failed to materialise the negative feelings ensued. Something which I found massively helped with limiting my expectation was to have a mantra which I could repeat in my mind as a sort of short circuit to break the chain of negative thoughts. The mantra can be anything, I went with ‘thank you’ as it is hard to feel anything other than gratitude when you are thanking someone/something
  • elkrych 3y ago
    Hi, thanks for posting. A mantra I use that some might find useful is: "To the work you are entitled, but not to the fruits thereof." Good luck on your journey!