You're absolutely right that sometimes holding hands takes longer, and as a project maintainer it's up to you to decide where the right tradeoff point is. Howe

You're absolutely right that sometimes holding hands takes longer, and as a project maintainer it's up to you to decide where the right tradeoff point is. However, the alternative side is to simply ignore the PR until the contributor is actually helping you. As a maintainer, you shouldn't feel you have to drive the PR. You should guide it, and spend most of your time on whatever else makes sense. (Again with the caveat that I don't know what caused the Dendrite devs in particular to make the decision to close down contributions.)