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Dating. No, seriously. As a life long loner/introvert with high anxiety, I kinda discovered recently (after a long marriage/divorce/several years of not datin

by nvarsj 3y ago

Dating. No, seriously. As a life long loner/introvert with high anxiety, I kinda discovered recently (after a long marriage/divorce/several years of not dating) that dating is actually kind of amazing. I never even knew this side of myself. I actually enjoy talking to random people about random stuff. Even if it doesn’t lead to a relationship, making any kind of connection with someone is deeply satisfying. I kind of wonder why I didn’t do this for the last 40 years. Anyways, if you’re like me, I really recommend pushing through your awkwardness and anxiety and just try to make connections with people. It’s one of the best things I’ve experienced. I feel like I spent the prior 40 years denying myself of a basic human experience. I’m glad that’s over.

nine_zeros 3y ago
I am married now but I went through 7 years where I compromised career for dating. And I'm glad I did that. My wife and our social life together, adds more value to my life than any manager/company/co-worker/compensation/insert_another_rat_race_item.
kj4211cash 3y ago
I get it! I am an introvert and have often been called shy. I am also now happily married. But I strangely miss first dates. I miss meeting new people who lead very different lives, and having both of us try to present the best version of our stories. I'm sure it was awkward and filled with dumb small talk. But I miss it.
- jll29 3y ago
  There's nothing wrong for you and your wife to invite a stranger couple over for dinner.
latchkey 3y ago
I spent a period of time doing that as well. Very glad that I did it. It wasn't even really 'dating'... it was just meeting random strangers with the pretense that it was a date... even though I got to the point where I knew within 30 seconds if I would ever meet that person again. I still enjoyed the conversations I had and helped my fine tune myself, and like you,... lower my anxiety levels.

by nvarsj 3y ago

nine_zeros 3y ago

I am married now but I went through 7 years where I compromised career for dating. And I'm glad I did that. My wife and our social life together, adds more value to my life than any manager/company/co-worker/compensation/insert_another_rat_race_item.

kj4211cash 3y ago

I get it! I am an introvert and have often been called shy. I am also now happily married. But I strangely miss first dates. I miss meeting new people who lead very different lives, and having both of us try to present the best version of our stories. I'm sure it was awkward and filled with dumb small talk. But I miss it.

jll29 3y ago
There's nothing wrong for you and your wife to invite a stranger couple over for dinner.

latchkey 3y ago

I spent a period of time doing that as well. Very glad that I did it. It wasn't even really 'dating'... it was just meeting random strangers with the pretense that it was a date... even though I got to the point where I knew within 30 seconds if I would ever meet that person again. I still enjoyed the conversations I had and helped my fine tune myself, and like you,... lower my anxiety levels.