I don't see a disconnect between those two states. As individuals we want acceptance, respect and love. It's abnormal for someone to randomly, attack others wh

I don't see a disconnect between those two states. As individuals we want acceptance, respect and love. It's abnormal for someone to randomly, attack others when they are alone and already vulnerable feeling. Normal people crave community and do not attempt acts that result in their ridicule and/or rejection. Only outliers like psychopaths continuously break societal norms. As groups we form bonds and have our place/role. Protecting what we have and those we love seems natural as does protecting the society, world view, or leader(s) our group supports. Therefore, I would expect individual violence to be much less than group violence in intensity, duration and occurrence.