I understand where you're coming from, but don't lose hope. The power of "sure, everyone else has one, but we're not everyone else" is strong. There's a big dif

I understand where you're coming from, but don't lose hope. The power of "sure, everyone else has one, but we're not everyone else" is strong. There's a big difference between caving in following along, and accepting that outside the house is (mostly) also outside your control. We have a trusting relationship with our kid too, and accept that he's going to do many things we disallow in our household, outside the house. It's working out pretty well, I think. There was a similar unquestioned presumption at his school that he would have a phone by now. I asked reasonable questions, and that presumption is no longer present.