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Several years ago I started just walking away from people when they ignored body language and conversational cues and wouldn't stop talking. As a result, there
by motohagiography 3y ago
Several years ago I started just walking away from people when they ignored body language and conversational cues and wouldn't stop talking. As a result, there is now a cadre of people who both talk at great legnths and think I am rude. However, I used the extra time to get better at the things I do, so the extra bit of disparagement nets out.
Using Russell Brand as an example, how do you describe the pattern that causes the kind of infinite nested open loops that make a polite interruption impossible? I'm occasionally guilty of it myself, where when my ignorance stupefies people into silent awe, it can read as rapt interest, but I try to always start with the intent to ask a question. What's a good conversational interrupt signal to give?
- TedDoesntTalk 3y ago> What's a good conversational interrupt signal to give? “Excuse me, I need the bathroom.”
- Eisenstein 3y agoWhat works sometimes is to raise your hand slightly and then: A) as politely but forcefully as possible admit you don't care what they are talking about ("I am afraid you have lost me here") then either pivot the conversation or make an excuse to leave or B) repeat to them in brief what they have said and affirm that you are completely with them on their point and either add your point to it or pivot the conversation or make an excuse to leave
- bentcorner 3y ago> when they ignored body language and conversational cues and wouldn't stop talking Aka "terminal squirm" - that thing people do where they start turning their body and backing up to signal they want out of a conversation. I learned this term a long time ago and quite surprisingly it only has a single page of hits on google.