> you are in close enough relationships to have expectations of mutual help That is one take about what makes a relationship close, obligation of mutual help.

> you are in close enough relationships to have expectations of mutual help That is one take about what makes a relationship close, obligation of mutual help. In my case it's different. What makes a relationships close is an intuition about how to proceed around each other's peeves and buttons and wounds. For example, one can avoid making me visibly upset by not mentioning their technical problems, or approaching the topic very very gently if so.