I'm approaching 40 and Discord makes me feel old. Like I have no clue how to use it. I've joined multiple programming Discords. When I post, where am I notifie

I'm approaching 40 and Discord makes me feel old. Like I have no clue how to use it. I've joined multiple programming Discords. When I post, where am I notified of the new replies to me? Or new threads in reply to my messages? I'm convinced I'm missing replies, so end up scrolling up and down history trying to spot them. I use Slack for a dozen programming Slacks and I get the UI and what's going on. Discord feels alien. Being able to trust the communication platform... that matters.