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I think you're trying to coddle people who have interpersonal deficiencies and it's to their detriment. >There might be consequences of their choice though. Th

I think you're trying to coddle people who have interpersonal deficiencies and it's to their detriment. >There might be consequences of their choice though. Their personal life might suffer or they might get fired from their cushy job if people don't like working with them. This is why they need to work on it. Unemployed and ostracized from the industry with no network to fall back on doesn't usually end well. >Why would there be awkward weirdos if they needed to work on not being awkward weirdos? People can be an awkward weirdos all they want, but they need to know how to turn on some facade they and other people are comfortable with when necessary.

paulcole 3y ago
I’m not coddling anyone. I’m simply saying the way the world really is. People have agency and they can choose to fuck themselves over as hard as they want. Either actively by drinking themselves to death or cheating on their spouse (for example) or passively by choosing to be an anti-social weirdo nobody likes who works with computers. Nobody needs to not cheat on their spouse. But they can choose to not do it. > Unemployed and ostracized from the industry with no network to fall back on doesn't usually end well. This is true, but it’s their life not yours. You can tell someone what they need to do all you want. Good luck with that btw. Get over the idea that anyone needs to do anything. Instead realize that people can choose to do whatever they’re motivated to do. And a lot of people are motivated to be miserable. And they’re not going to do anything about it. They certainly don’t need to.
- Clubber 3y ago
  I think you are being a little pedantic and playing word salad with the word "needs." They need to work on it or their life will most likely suck. That better? I feel that was implied in my original statement: >People like that really need to work on fixing it. It can obviously be crippling to their career and lives.

paulcole 3y ago

I’m not coddling anyone. I’m simply saying the way the world really is. People have agency and they can choose to fuck themselves over as hard as they want. Either actively by drinking themselves to death or cheating on their spouse (for example) or passively by choosing to be an anti-social weirdo nobody likes who works with computers. Nobody needs to not cheat on their spouse. But they can choose to not do it. > Unemployed and ostracized from the industry with no network to fall back on doesn't usually end well. This is true, but it’s their life not yours. You can tell someone what they need to do all you want. Good luck with that btw. Get over the idea that anyone needs to do anything. Instead realize that people can choose to do whatever they’re motivated to do. And a lot of people are motivated to be miserable. And they’re not going to do anything about it. They certainly don’t need to.

Clubber 3y ago
I think you are being a little pedantic and playing word salad with the word "needs." They need to work on it or their life will most likely suck. That better? I feel that was implied in my original statement: >People like that really need to work on fixing it. It can obviously be crippling to their career and lives.