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I think for many people, myself included, the worry isn’t “the switch flipped” it’s losing everything and everyone you’ve ever cared about. Life is pretty aweso

I think for many people, myself included, the worry isn’t “the switch flipped” it’s losing everything and everyone you’ve ever cared about. Life is pretty awesome. Don’t want to give that up for any reason.

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plasticchris 3y ago
What has been lost? You no longer know loss then.
- hotnfresh 3y ago
  Right, and we won’t be anxious about it then. But now is not then.
  - digging 3y ago
    That's what they're saying, though. The anxiety today is not useful because it's anxiety about something that will never happen. You'll never be aware of having died or lost anything through your own death. It's just insanely difficult for us to internalize that idea because we're animals, we avoid death instinctively and fear loss instinctively.
    - hotnfresh 3y ago
      Yeah, I get it. None of that does anything to mitigate the feeling when the yawning expanse of inevitable non-existence comes into one's mind. [EDIT] Oh, also: > The anxiety today is not useful because it's anxiety about something that will never happen. Ceasing to exist will happen. It's guaranteed to happen. The fact of anxiety being useless doesn't do much to get rid of it. If it did, there wouldn't be much of it at all.
      - digging 3y ago
        > Ceasing to exist will happen. It's guaranteed to happen. Not from your point of view! You can experience every moment leading up to your death and may be lucky enough to realize you're about to die, but it's not possible to be aware of the end of your own existence. It is always a future event. (Based on our best models, that is. Obviously the living can't possibly know what it's like to be permanently dead.) > The fact of anxiety being useless doesn't do much to get rid of it. I don't agree; it's valuable to be aware of the unconscious motivations of anxiety - it's just that awareness alone isn't sufficient to cure the anxiety. > None of that does anything to mitigate the feeling when the yawning expanse of inevitable non-existence comes into one's mind Again, I don't agree! Being able to think about "the event" from different angles gives the brain an escape hatch from anxiety traps. The anxiety might come, but now you have tools to handle it instead of be dominated by it.
        hotnfresh 3y ago
        Yeah, I've done the stoicism thing and all that (since before it was cool, LOL). It's not like I'm crippled by anxiety about death. I just find "why worry, you won't experience it!" to entirely miss the point.
        digging 3y ago
        > since before it was cool, LOL You must be quite old, then! > I just find "why worry, you won't experience it!" to entirely miss the point. What is the point then?
        hotnfresh 3y ago
        This: > The anxiety today is not useful because it's anxiety about something that will never happen. You'll never be aware of having died or lost anything through your own death. Isn't addressing the thing that (I think?) most people are worried about when they worry about death. I don't think most are worried about how bad they will feel after they die, which is what this is concerned with. It's totally beside the point. The point is that we are conscious, now, and imagining what it means for that consciousness to end and for the entire future of the universe to not exist to us at all—really imagining it—can be rather unpleasant. Upsetting, even. It's subjectively identical to the end of the universe. "But you used to not exist"—irrelevant, because 1) I do now, and 2) I at least get some kind of window into what all that was, since it's... the past. "But you'll experience nothing, so it won't be unpleasant"—even less relevant. I'm not worried about that state of (not) being, being unpleasant. I'm not worried about existing with an awareness of having died, as mentioned in the quoted bit.
- da25 3y ago
  I think, I do understand both the perspectives (or at least believe so). One, that after death, you lose your continued existence. And the other, that, this non-existence isn't a loss, since you can't experience it anymore. Inevitably, the distinction lies in the belief of, whether the world continues to exist once you die - because if it does, then your non-existence is still a loss for your peers and the rest of the world. On other hand, your qualia (sense/experience) of the world is all you have - i.e. your sense of sound, sight, touch etc. So, at most, this sense of experience is what you can call your "world" - nothing more, nothing less. And once that ceases there is no "world" anymore.
BrandoElFollito 3y ago
Well, you are not losing anything because you just don't exist. You have everything, and then you are not there anymore to feel that your lost something. But I can relate to what you are saying, I see it rather like a form of "future nostalgia": it is Sunday afternoon and your are sad that it is going to be over. This is something I learnt to actively fight and live in the present.

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plasticchris 3y ago

What has been lost? You no longer know loss then.

hotnfresh 3y ago
Right, and we won’t be anxious about it then. But now is not then.
- digging 3y ago
  That's what they're saying, though. The anxiety today is not useful because it's anxiety about something that will never happen. You'll never be aware of having died or lost anything through your own death. It's just insanely difficult for us to internalize that idea because we're animals, we avoid death instinctively and fear loss instinctively.
  - hotnfresh 3y ago
    Yeah, I get it. None of that does anything to mitigate the feeling when the yawning expanse of inevitable non-existence comes into one's mind. [EDIT] Oh, also: > The anxiety today is not useful because it's anxiety about something that will never happen. Ceasing to exist will happen. It's guaranteed to happen. The fact of anxiety being useless doesn't do much to get rid of it. If it did, there wouldn't be much of it at all.
    - digging 3y ago
      > Ceasing to exist will happen. It's guaranteed to happen. Not from your point of view! You can experience every moment leading up to your death and may be lucky enough to realize you're about to die, but it's not possible to be aware of the end of your own existence. It is always a future event. (Based on our best models, that is. Obviously the living can't possibly know what it's like to be permanently dead.) > The fact of anxiety being useless doesn't do much to get rid of it. I don't agree; it's valuable to be aware of the unconscious motivations of anxiety - it's just that awareness alone isn't sufficient to cure the anxiety. > None of that does anything to mitigate the feeling when the yawning expanse of inevitable non-existence comes into one's mind Again, I don't agree! Being able to think about "the event" from different angles gives the brain an escape hatch from anxiety traps. The anxiety might come, but now you have tools to handle it instead of be dominated by it.
      - hotnfresh 3y ago
        Yeah, I've done the stoicism thing and all that (since before it was cool, LOL). It's not like I'm crippled by anxiety about death. I just find "why worry, you won't experience it!" to entirely miss the point.
        digging 3y ago
        > since before it was cool, LOL You must be quite old, then! > I just find "why worry, you won't experience it!" to entirely miss the point. What is the point then?
        hotnfresh 3y ago
        This: > The anxiety today is not useful because it's anxiety about something that will never happen. You'll never be aware of having died or lost anything through your own death. Isn't addressing the thing that (I think?) most people are worried about when they worry about death. I don't think most are worried about how bad they will feel after they die, which is what this is concerned with. It's totally beside the point. The point is that we are conscious, now, and imagining what it means for that consciousness to end and for the entire future of the universe to not exist to us at all—really imagining it—can be rather unpleasant. Upsetting, even. It's subjectively identical to the end of the universe. "But you used to not exist"—irrelevant, because 1) I do now, and 2) I at least get some kind of window into what all that was, since it's... the past. "But you'll experience nothing, so it won't be unpleasant"—even less relevant. I'm not worried about that state of (not) being, being unpleasant. I'm not worried about existing with an awareness of having died, as mentioned in the quoted bit.
da25 3y ago
I think, I do understand both the perspectives (or at least believe so). One, that after death, you lose your continued existence. And the other, that, this non-existence isn't a loss, since you can't experience it anymore. Inevitably, the distinction lies in the belief of, whether the world continues to exist once you die - because if it does, then your non-existence is still a loss for your peers and the rest of the world. On other hand, your qualia (sense/experience) of the world is all you have - i.e. your sense of sound, sight, touch etc. So, at most, this sense of experience is what you can call your "world" - nothing more, nothing less. And once that ceases there is no "world" anymore.

BrandoElFollito 3y ago

Well, you are not losing anything because you just don't exist. You have everything, and then you are not there anymore to feel that your lost something. But I can relate to what you are saying, I see it rather like a form of "future nostalgia": it is Sunday afternoon and your are sad that it is going to be over. This is something I learnt to actively fight and live in the present.