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It's not a realistic approach to life. Homes cost money. Children cost money. Wives cost money. You can't just go pursue whatever passion you have unless you a

It's not a realistic approach to life. Homes cost money. Children cost money. Wives cost money. You can't just go pursue whatever passion you have unless you are willing to say give up having children, a wife, and/or a home. Especially true when you live in a place like silicon valley like so many readers on HN do. Homes are now $2-3m. If you're married - your wife isn't gonna be happy with the massive downgrade in lifestyle either. You just can't do these things, unfortunately.

bumby 3y ago
This just reads weird with the “wives cost money” and “your wife isn’t gonna be happy with the massive downgrade” angle. You understand why that’s poorly phrased, right?
- bradlys 3y ago
  Is it actually inaccurate though? Try to tell me a wife who wants to live in SV in her typical $2-3m home is going to be okay with moving to BFE and giving it all up including the nice private schools for her kids.
  - bumby 3y ago
    I mean, this is predicated on so many out-of-touch aspects it seems like it is written by someone in a bubble or on the far reaches of an antisocial spectrum. 1) not everyone needs or wants to live in SV 2) there are plenty of people who manage to “survive” on a home worth less than $2M-$3M 3) public schools are a thing 4) not everyone views the primary goal of a relationship as a transaction for a certain quality of life. “For richer or poorer” and all of that. It reads like those op-eds during hard times when relatively well-off people lament about how the economy is battering them too, because after the Lexus payments, and private school, and SAT prep courses, they are forced to scale back on things like their annual Aspen vacation. That can all be very true, but also completely disjointed from the experience of most people that it lands flat.
JaDogg 3y ago
I agree with Homes and Children cost money. Wives cost money - this depend on the wife/partner you have. I'm teaching my wife computer science, when she have a job I can reduce my work hours to do my own thing. Might have to downgrade (move out from greater london). But would be worth it. In my case I just want to work on open source projects and make some money to live from that.

bumby 3y ago

This just reads weird with the “wives cost money” and “your wife isn’t gonna be happy with the massive downgrade” angle. You understand why that’s poorly phrased, right?

bradlys 3y ago
Is it actually inaccurate though? Try to tell me a wife who wants to live in SV in her typical $2-3m home is going to be okay with moving to BFE and giving it all up including the nice private schools for her kids.
- bumby 3y ago
  I mean, this is predicated on so many out-of-touch aspects it seems like it is written by someone in a bubble or on the far reaches of an antisocial spectrum. 1) not everyone needs or wants to live in SV 2) there are plenty of people who manage to “survive” on a home worth less than $2M-$3M 3) public schools are a thing 4) not everyone views the primary goal of a relationship as a transaction for a certain quality of life. “For richer or poorer” and all of that. It reads like those op-eds during hard times when relatively well-off people lament about how the economy is battering them too, because after the Lexus payments, and private school, and SAT prep courses, they are forced to scale back on things like their annual Aspen vacation. That can all be very true, but also completely disjointed from the experience of most people that it lands flat.

JaDogg 3y ago

I agree with Homes and Children cost money. Wives cost money - this depend on the wife/partner you have. I'm teaching my wife computer science, when she have a job I can reduce my work hours to do my own thing. Might have to downgrade (move out from greater london). But would be worth it. In my case I just want to work on open source projects and make some money to live from that.