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Your children's future classmates wish you wouldn't keep your children from enriching their shared classroom. You might be just the kind of parent that the scho

Your children's future classmates wish you wouldn't keep your children from enriching their shared classroom. You might be just the kind of parent that the school needs to maintain a critical mass of involved parents.

anon291 3y ago
My wife resents that her parents made her be this for the other kids in her class. This meant my wife had to do things like be the one to 'tame' the poorly behaved boy. Or she had to be the one to do extra work because the teacher would group her with the worst student. This is actually not preparation for adulthood. As an adult, when someone acts like a jerk, you ignore them and shun them and may report them depending on how bad it is. As a child, you're forced to interact. As an adult, I choose my colleagues so that they're intelligent and pull their weight. A common complaint I hear from homeschooled kids is 'parentification', where their parents expect adult responsibility from small children. I fail to see how what you're asking for is any different. Children shouldn't be expected to do adult's jobs.
- humanrebar 3y ago
  Lots of adults have underachieving coworkers, have no say in the matter, and have to figure out how to deal with that both professionally and emotionally.
ninkendo 3y ago
Underrated viewpoint. Public schools are the only option for most people. Most people don’t have the financial ability to spend their time teaching their kids when they’re already working as much as they can to make ends meet. Heck, for a huge segment of the population, public school is the only place where their kids can even get a decent meal. If every parent that does have the time to invest in their child’s future, takes said child out of public school, said schools are left with only the uninvolved parents, which makes it worse in a “self fulfilling prophecy” kind of way. The arguments in favor of home schooling all seem to amount to “fuck you, not my problem, I take care of my own kid, you’re on your own.”
- graemep 3y ago
  SO you want parents to give their kids a worse education in the hope it will help other kids? As a father (and a single parent home educator) not bloody likely. Also, my kids would not have done as well at school - they would have been a lot more like the the other kids, so would not have improved all that much. Not in the US, but some things are the same here in the UK, and in Sri Lanka where we lived for much of my kid's lives.
  - ninkendo 3y ago
    Yes, your argument shows my point very well, thank you. (Consider that public schools might not be a “worse education” if resources weren’t funneled away by private schools and home schooling.)
- HlessClaudesman 3y ago
  There are some crappy parents out there, or parents just doing the best they can after being delt a crappy hand. Those parents who can't find the time / motivation to spend some time doing learning activities with their kids really shouldn't have applied for the job of parent in the first place. If more parents took ultimate responsibility for their kids learning outcomes teachers would be under less pressure, and would have more ability to provide extra help.
  - ninkendo 3y ago
    > just doing the best they can after being delt a crappy hand > really shouldn't have applied for the job of parent in the first place Yeah, I mean if you plan on getting laid off from your career some day and have to work two jobs to make ends meet, you really shouldn't have kids. Having kids should only be reserved for people who plan on having no unforeseen issues ever come up in their life, am I right? Parents should just take responsibility and make sure that they don't ever come across hard times. See also: the poor are just lazy.
    - HlessClaudesman 3y ago
mensetmanusman 3y ago
Or, the teachers will thank you for keeping the teacher:child ratio lower so that they can focus on kids needing more attention.
- gammarator 3y ago
  If there are too few kids the schools will let teachers go. Funding is provided based on enrollment.
  - mensetmanusman 3y ago
    Then they will go teach in pods?
jawns 3y ago
Phew, I'm glad you hold this viewpoint, because I need a little help. My local prison has a lot of inmates who would be better off, and less likely to re-offend, if they just had more good influences in their lives. I mean, who thought it was a good idea to put all of the bad-influence people together in one location? So, I'm looking for volunteers to live side-by-side with the prisoners, in the hopes of rubbing off on them. You'll get three hots and a cot, just like them. Come on, in the spirit of social responsibility and collective welfare, what do you say? Can I put you down for a four-year stint?

anon291 3y ago

My wife resents that her parents made her be this for the other kids in her class. This meant my wife had to do things like be the one to 'tame' the poorly behaved boy. Or she had to be the one to do extra work because the teacher would group her with the worst student. This is actually not preparation for adulthood. As an adult, when someone acts like a jerk, you ignore them and shun them and may report them depending on how bad it is. As a child, you're forced to interact. As an adult, I choose my colleagues so that they're intelligent and pull their weight. A common complaint I hear from homeschooled kids is 'parentification', where their parents expect adult responsibility from small children. I fail to see how what you're asking for is any different. Children shouldn't be expected to do adult's jobs.

humanrebar 3y ago
Lots of adults have underachieving coworkers, have no say in the matter, and have to figure out how to deal with that both professionally and emotionally.

ninkendo 3y ago

Underrated viewpoint. Public schools are the only option for most people. Most people don’t have the financial ability to spend their time teaching their kids when they’re already working as much as they can to make ends meet. Heck, for a huge segment of the population, public school is the only place where their kids can even get a decent meal. If every parent that does have the time to invest in their child’s future, takes said child out of public school, said schools are left with only the uninvolved parents, which makes it worse in a “self fulfilling prophecy” kind of way. The arguments in favor of home schooling all seem to amount to “fuck you, not my problem, I take care of my own kid, you’re on your own.”

graemep 3y ago
SO you want parents to give their kids a worse education in the hope it will help other kids? As a father (and a single parent home educator) not bloody likely. Also, my kids would not have done as well at school - they would have been a lot more like the the other kids, so would not have improved all that much. Not in the US, but some things are the same here in the UK, and in Sri Lanka where we lived for much of my kid's lives.
- ninkendo 3y ago
  Yes, your argument shows my point very well, thank you. (Consider that public schools might not be a “worse education” if resources weren’t funneled away by private schools and home schooling.)
HlessClaudesman 3y ago
There are some crappy parents out there, or parents just doing the best they can after being delt a crappy hand. Those parents who can't find the time / motivation to spend some time doing learning activities with their kids really shouldn't have applied for the job of parent in the first place. If more parents took ultimate responsibility for their kids learning outcomes teachers would be under less pressure, and would have more ability to provide extra help.
- ninkendo 3y ago
  > just doing the best they can after being delt a crappy hand > really shouldn't have applied for the job of parent in the first place Yeah, I mean if you plan on getting laid off from your career some day and have to work two jobs to make ends meet, you really shouldn't have kids. Having kids should only be reserved for people who plan on having no unforeseen issues ever come up in their life, am I right? Parents should just take responsibility and make sure that they don't ever come across hard times. See also: the poor are just lazy.
  - HlessClaudesman 3y ago

mensetmanusman 3y ago

Or, the teachers will thank you for keeping the teacher:child ratio lower so that they can focus on kids needing more attention.

gammarator 3y ago
If there are too few kids the schools will let teachers go. Funding is provided based on enrollment.
- mensetmanusman 3y ago
  Then they will go teach in pods?

jawns 3y ago

Phew, I'm glad you hold this viewpoint, because I need a little help. My local prison has a lot of inmates who would be better off, and less likely to re-offend, if they just had more good influences in their lives. I mean, who thought it was a good idea to put all of the bad-influence people together in one location? So, I'm looking for volunteers to live side-by-side with the prisoners, in the hopes of rubbing off on them. You'll get three hots and a cot, just like them. Come on, in the spirit of social responsibility and collective welfare, what do you say? Can I put you down for a four-year stint?