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> That's not the socialization that I want for my kids. On the other hand, I'd definitely want my children to be familiar with it. Bullying is not something
by akira2501 3y ago
> That's not the socialization that I want for my kids.
On the other hand, I'd definitely want my children to be familiar with it. Bullying is not something isolated to schools. I've seen it in nearly every social and political situation that exists at nearly every age group. In my estimation people are getting worse at identifying it and collectively we're getting worse at punishing it.
- doubled112 3y agoDealing with bullies is something you'll definitely see later in life. I'm glad I learned how to shut it down quick or avoid it altogether earlier rather than later. Being let out into the world thinking everybody loves you sounds like a terrifying idea too.
- SoftTalker 3y agoWhat do you do to quickly shut down an adult bully?
- KoftaBob 3y agoSleep with their wife
- doubled112 3y agoWell that escalated quickly. Are you also taking photos for blackmail purposes? That'd very possibly shut the whole thing down.
- doubled112 3y agoIt really depends. If it's a peer in a more professional setting, simply calling them out generally makes you less a target, especially if calling out their behaviour is done in a group setting. It comes down to the old "stand up for yourself" rule we've all heard. Also, calm confidence tends to work with adults too. If the bullying is coming from above, time to move on. I have zero patience for it, and there's likely no stopping them. Also, I'm not suggesting you take them outside, although I know a couple guys who've been through fights between coworkers in their workplaces. Grown men (in their 30s) sure can take a long time to grow.
- wombat-man 3y agoYeah, that can be tough if it's coming from above and you need the paycheck.
- doktrin 3y ago> Bullying is not something isolated to schools. I've seen it in nearly every social and political situation that exists at nearly every age group. Unless you live in prison or a war zone I highly doubt you've witnessed "adult" bullying that remotely approaches the ferocity and cruelty some kids have to endure on a daily basis.
- PuissantSheep 3y ago[dead]
- pfannkuchen 3y agoAs an adult there is basically no situation where someone is harassing you and you have no way out of it. What do you have in mind?
- virissimo 3y agoThis scenario is most commonly found in prison.
- mcpackieh 3y agoPublic schools teach you all the wrong ways to deal with bullies, and forbid the correct ways. They teach kids to run to teachers for help whenever they get bullied; in the real world that doesn't work because there's no teacher to run to. And when a kid stands up to a bully themselves, the school punishes him for exercising precisely the skills he'll need later in life. Schools don't teach kids how to deal with bullies, they teach kids how to be docile victims.
- ndriscoll 3y agoAs someone with a toddler, I've found myself annoyed with this already with Ms Rachel videos on youtube. "If another kid is throwing sand at you and won't stop when you ask, tell a grown up." No, grown ups were also raised on this garbage and won't do anything. What's the teacher going to do if the other kid won't stop? Go tell the principal? And what will they do? Nothing. The correct thing to do is to shove the other kid. Don't hurt them; just indicate they need to back off. If they still don't, throw sand at them, and then while they're recoiling, shove them down and kick them. Society has a major problem where proper, proportionate, defensive violence is punished, and it traces back to this kind of crap.
- jollyllama 3y agoYes, they'll encounter it later, but the later they encounter is is probably better. They can then face it with a more mature brain, relatively speaking, and hopefully avoid forming deep pathways in their minds related to trauma.