I'm not sure why you're using the term 'scolded' -- who is doing the scolding? who is being scolded? When you say that ~ scolding won't do it ~ (particularly i

I'm not sure why you're using the term 'scolded' -- who is doing the scolding? who is being scolded? When you say that ~ scolding won't do it ~ (particularly in this context) you're telling people that they shouldn't even mention that there is a problem, because that's just scolding people and it's apparently pointless. I wanted to point this out because you (correctly) identified tolerance of bad behaviour (in boys, men) as a contributing factor to the sorry state we're in. I agree that the negative attitudes and bad behaviours perpetually on display by men are pretty deeply set by the time they are adults. I don't agree that telling people (particularly boys) that they're doing something wrong is pointless. If you don't stop it, it won't stop.