My least favorite example is the classic, "and what do you do?" Yes, it's a place filler nothing question for some people. BUT For others it's a very clear ind

My least favorite example is the classic, "and what do you do?" Yes, it's a place filler nothing question for some people. BUT For others it's a very clear indicator of worth and status, which are important to them. Both groups are exceedingly put off when you answer honestly with, "my work does not define who I am." Arbitrary social construct that people take seriously. So you learn who is using it as a Dick measuring contest and which are just filling space. The first you engage aggressively with and the second you change the subject to them or their family or whatever else they are interested in.