Not the parent, I still think my input might be interesting. >> My take is that 99% of the men on there are immature man children whose life is a mess. > This

Not the parent, I still think my input might be interesting. >> My take is that 99% of the men on there are immature man children whose life is a mess. > This is a completely ridiculous take. You sound like an asshole saying this. Have you met 99% of men using dating apps? I agree with this. Attraction doesn't run strongest on moral lines. In my interactions it ran strong on playfulness/teasing/vibe, optimism/hope/dreamy, emotional safety, adventure/leading and intellectual connection. A protective bad boy that knows a thing or two about sounding interesting but is a mess otherwise would be attractive for the same 4 reasons (and then some). > Statistically you are in the 90th percentile of attractiveness for men or you are lying. Either way your experience is highly atypical. There are more options. I'm definitely not in the 90th percentile of attractiveness and my experience is atypical as well. I'd like to encourage you to keep an open mind. >> If you want a good partner you have to be one. An app can’t do it for you. IMO this is more relationship advice than advice to attract someone. I know many men that are good partners, but they're not good at the attracting step. Once they attracted someone it goes swimmingly. >> the quality of my dating experience depends entirely on me. > This is also a truism and completely moronic. I guess non-white people and disabled people, etc. who have a statistically more difficult time finding a partner on dating apps should just stop being so unattractive! A decade ago I saw a talk of Sean Stephenson (RIP). He had an amazing dating life. I figured that if he could do it then anyone could.