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There's no clear, bright line between personal and professional and that makes it hard to escape the quagmire. It's a mental model I've found more helpful than
by DoreenMichele 3y ago
There's no clear, bright line between personal and professional and that makes it hard to escape the quagmire.
It's a mental model I've found more helpful than just screaming about "sexism!" but I have no expectation it will ever catch on.
- whatshisface 3y agoI do think there's a bright line, but it's between trying to express yourself while negotiating reasonable emotional common ground (personal) and constantly trying to prove yourself while expanding your "turf" of opinions and beliefs as far as possible (professional), which is then confused in context when people operate in one mode in an environment that really fits the other. The complementary mode swap to the one you are talking about, are the crowd who argue non-stop in the Twitter replies of people who were just having a thought and not actually planning to become a Socratic philosopher. That is the consequence of treating every interaction like it's a task-focused meeting with implied rewards for whoever comes out looking like they were on the top of it.
- DoreenMichele 3y agoTrust is earned. Professional reputation where people trust you in certain respects is attached to you as an individual. So for me it's been hard to say "This is personal and that is professional." Like either I'm trustworthy or not. Duh. So it's not been obvious to me where to draw that line or navigate such.
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