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If I may ask, what motivated you to have more children and at what point did you realise you wanted more than one child?

• lolinder 3y ago
  I'd always assumed that we would have at least two kids. The first few months were completely overwhelming, but as it got better it just felt like the right thing to go for. Six months was the threshold for me with each child where I felt like we finally were stable again and it was worth even thinking about the future.
  • pmarreck 3y ago
    > Six months was the threshold for me with each child My kid (the one and only, since he wasn't even supposed to be possible, and since we're not... doing the things that would result in more pregnancies) slept through the night after 4 months. The really difficult part, subjectively, seemed to emerge after 20 months when he went from 3 naps a day to 1, and when he started being very mobile, putting random things in his mouth, jumping (and potentially falling), etc. etc. etc., all of which demanded 100% attention. He's now 28 months and even though he's in daycare and adjusted well to it, I'm exhausted every day after he is finally put to bed around 8. I am constantly stressed out because I haven't yet found a balance between work, him, and self-care things like an exercise/meditation/outdoor-walk schedule; structural things. Trying to set that up now actually. The lack of intimacy is a level of problem that I can't even figure out how to express though