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This made me realize that I've never heard of this stereotype or encountered this type of person. Every single husband I've met has been outgoing and very smoot
by carabiner 3y ago
This made me realize that I've never heard of this stereotype or encountered this type of person. Every single husband I've met has been outgoing and very smooth with people in all sorts of contexts. They had jobs in technical sales or were managers of some kind. They were even good at interacting with kids when they had never had any of their own.
- SketchySeaBeast 3y agoSpeaking as a married introvert, next time you're at a work party look for the spouse sitting quietly on his phone, but please don't bother him. He'd rather not be at the party but as long as he's left alone he's happy.
- float4 3y ago> look for the spouse sitting quietly on his phone, but please don't bother him Might as well just be someone with social anxiety. Many people like that in tech.
- SketchySeaBeast 3y agoWell, in that case I wouldn't bother them either.
- skrabblez 3y agotell me you're not a sw developer without telling me you're not a sw developer
- graphe 3y agoThe title is married introvert, not introvert. If a software developer is married, he's often not an introvert in my experience.
- tibbar 3y agoI grew in a conservative religious community, around a lot of very, very, very quiet people. The husbands in particular had a tendency to sit very quietly until something required their presence and then retreat into the background.
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- sdwr 3y agoI like how even in your fantasy world, the socially confident men are still working in tech https://youtu.be/h95DooxMFsk?si=oQF6jwHdCBs8clTr https://youtu.be/h95DooxMFsk?si=oQF6jwHdCBs8clTr
- queuebert 3y agoBut sales, so not really.
- lolinder 3y agoI can assure you that you have encountered this type of person. I'm one. At least half the active members on this forum are introverts, married or otherwise. Between one-third and half of the general population is introverted, which means unless you have a very unique workplace a solid chunk of your coworkers are. The problem with introverts is that we by definition don't stand out. When you notice us, it's because we're being uncharacteristically social, so you assume we're just like you. When we're in our comfort zone, you won't see us at all and so you once again won't have any evidence that there are actually people out there who prefer to be alone. One key to discovering introverts is to not assume that "introverted" means "[not] smooth with people in all sorts of contexts". At work I participate more than most of my teammates, and I'm really good at understanding people and helping build consensus, but it takes a lot out of me. If you just knew me from work you might not realize it, but by the end of the day I don't want to spend any time with anyone other than my wife.
- devonbleak 3y agoMost of the people around me at work are this way - at the end of each day we're all scattering to go home and happy hours aren't a thing unless someone is celebrating a major life event.
- nelblu 3y ago> Every single husband I had to read that a few times because I was wondering maybe there's a thing called "single husband" , but boy it's just the other usage of the word "single". English is a funny language :)
- devonbleak 3y agoIntroverted married manager here. I can put on an outgoing and smooth exterior when I need to - it's how I got to where I am in management. I'm great with kids in short bursts. But these things are exhausting and doing them too much without recharging will impact other parts of my life - as I work 6 days a week for about half the year I have to be very conscious of how I'm spending my energy and the social commitments I can make.
- pavel_lishin 3y ago> Every single husband I've met Well, you're statistically less likely to meet the introverted ones :)