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What you seem to miss out on is the same people that leave their ear dangles in also don't offer those social queues and the ones they do offer are ambiguous.

What you seem to miss out on is the same people that leave their ear dangles in also don't offer those social queues and the ones they do offer are ambiguous. You really have no way if knowing if they're listening and responding to you or to the thing plugged in to their head. This is not a take your hat off indoors kind of thing which would be a societal custom. This is a do I know if we are communicating and do I have your focus thing. You seemed to have missed out on the part of showing the same level of attention that they would expect if they initiated the conversation. That's a big miss on your part because there the core issue of the over developed sense of entitlement. Because no one says, oh yeah it's fine if I have no idea if you're listening to me or not. No we all get irritated. So just do what you'd expect if the situation was reversed. That's not cultural custom specific thing. That's a society thing.

JohnFen 3y ago
> What you seem to miss out on is the same people that leave their ear dangles in also don't offer those social queues and the ones they do offer are ambiguous. I've noticed this as well. Maybe I wouldn't feel so uncomfortable trying to talk to people wearing them if they gave the same cues people who aren't wearing them give -- but I can't remember ever seeing that happen.
dkonofalski 3y ago
>What you seem to miss out on is the same people that leave their ear dangles in also don't offer those social queues and the ones they do offer are ambiguous. Did you ever consider that they're not offering those social cues because they're not interested in what you have to say? You sound like you're having a one-sided conversation with a wall and then getting mad that the wall isn't paying you the "proper" respect. I have never been unsure of whether someone was listening to me with AirPods. If I was, I'd ask them and would know immediately or else I wouldn't waste my time. Not everyone has to hear what you have to say.
- elmerfud 3y ago
  The way it usually goes is I tell them something, they pretend to hear or act like they don't care. Then later when they missed that piece of information and missed out on something they complain that I didn't tell them. If they don't care what I have to say that's fine but don't complain when they miss out. That's the crux with your argument. They always complain when they miss out. It's that over developed self entitlement thing. Only they matter so only they matter so they don't want to listen, only they matter so it's my fault when they miss out. You seem be this exact person. Because what you think is me being angry because they didn't listen is totally wrong. I could care less if someone doesn't listen. What I get upset about is being burdened with the responsibility of someone else not listening. Shut your hole about the results of not listening and be responsible for your self absorbed arrogance that no one has value but yourself and everything will be fine. Sulk in the corner that you missed out. Apparently responding with "you" to a comment that used "you" is inappropriate. I guess I'll put my air pods in now.
  - travisjungroth 3y ago
    This is not an appropriate way to communicate with people on this site.
  - soulofmischief 3y ago
    You sound like you have difficulties with harboring resentment, and projecting your experiences onto strangers. The tone in all of your comments is hostile, lacking benefit of the doubt, generalizing and presumptive. Quite frankly, if you typically act this way in person, I'd probably zone out when you spoke as well. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that maybe there is a person in your life with listening problems, but a) OP is not "this exact person", that's projection, and b) you possibly have your own communication issues, based on this thread. Regardless, you will have a much more pleasant time in life if you learn to be more accepting. I wear my airpods chronically, and no one has ever questioned if I was listening to them, because I have active listening skills. The thought of an internet stranger having a problem with this is amusing.
  - dkonofalski 3y ago
    I've never seen or heard anyone who wears AirPods complain that they missed a part of a conversation they cared about. I think you're just lying now. >Shut your hole about the results of not listening and be responsible for your self absorbed arrogance that no one has value but yourself and everything will be fine. Sulk in the corner that you missed out. Also, yeah... you're totally not angry and entitled... it's totally everyone else...
JumpCrisscross 3y ago
> do I know if we are communicating and do I have your focus thing. I have friends who keep their AirPods in. I've literally never had this problem. Might it be that there are cues they're sending that you aren't picking up? Or that the issue of AirPods being in or out is not causing the lack of attentiveness transmission. (I can empathize with what you describe, but most commonly because someone can't get their face out of their phone or watch.)

JohnFen 3y ago

> What you seem to miss out on is the same people that leave their ear dangles in also don't offer those social queues and the ones they do offer are ambiguous. I've noticed this as well. Maybe I wouldn't feel so uncomfortable trying to talk to people wearing them if they gave the same cues people who aren't wearing them give -- but I can't remember ever seeing that happen.

dkonofalski 3y ago

>What you seem to miss out on is the same people that leave their ear dangles in also don't offer those social queues and the ones they do offer are ambiguous. Did you ever consider that they're not offering those social cues because they're not interested in what you have to say? You sound like you're having a one-sided conversation with a wall and then getting mad that the wall isn't paying you the "proper" respect. I have never been unsure of whether someone was listening to me with AirPods. If I was, I'd ask them and would know immediately or else I wouldn't waste my time. Not everyone has to hear what you have to say.

elmerfud 3y ago
The way it usually goes is I tell them something, they pretend to hear or act like they don't care. Then later when they missed that piece of information and missed out on something they complain that I didn't tell them. If they don't care what I have to say that's fine but don't complain when they miss out. That's the crux with your argument. They always complain when they miss out. It's that over developed self entitlement thing. Only they matter so only they matter so they don't want to listen, only they matter so it's my fault when they miss out. You seem be this exact person. Because what you think is me being angry because they didn't listen is totally wrong. I could care less if someone doesn't listen. What I get upset about is being burdened with the responsibility of someone else not listening. Shut your hole about the results of not listening and be responsible for your self absorbed arrogance that no one has value but yourself and everything will be fine. Sulk in the corner that you missed out. Apparently responding with "you" to a comment that used "you" is inappropriate. I guess I'll put my air pods in now.
- travisjungroth 3y ago
  This is not an appropriate way to communicate with people on this site.
- soulofmischief 3y ago
  You sound like you have difficulties with harboring resentment, and projecting your experiences onto strangers. The tone in all of your comments is hostile, lacking benefit of the doubt, generalizing and presumptive. Quite frankly, if you typically act this way in person, I'd probably zone out when you spoke as well. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that maybe there is a person in your life with listening problems, but a) OP is not "this exact person", that's projection, and b) you possibly have your own communication issues, based on this thread. Regardless, you will have a much more pleasant time in life if you learn to be more accepting. I wear my airpods chronically, and no one has ever questioned if I was listening to them, because I have active listening skills. The thought of an internet stranger having a problem with this is amusing.
- dkonofalski 3y ago
  I've never seen or heard anyone who wears AirPods complain that they missed a part of a conversation they cared about. I think you're just lying now. >Shut your hole about the results of not listening and be responsible for your self absorbed arrogance that no one has value but yourself and everything will be fine. Sulk in the corner that you missed out. Also, yeah... you're totally not angry and entitled... it's totally everyone else...

JumpCrisscross 3y ago

> do I know if we are communicating and do I have your focus thing. I have friends who keep their AirPods in. I've literally never had this problem. Might it be that there are cues they're sending that you aren't picking up? Or that the issue of AirPods being in or out is not causing the lack of attentiveness transmission. (I can empathize with what you describe, but most commonly because someone can't get their face out of their phone or watch.)