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> "seem to accept authority happily?" I don't know much about autism. I can say though, that while I might appear to "accept authority", that's not really tru
by tyingq 3y ago
> "seem to accept authority happily?"
I don't know much about autism. I can say though, that while I might appear to "accept authority", that's not really true. In each case, I'm weighing the benefits and drawbacks of that, and choosing what to do.
Often, if I disagree with an authority figure's position on something, there's more efficient ways to get what I want than public disagreement.
- flkenosad 3y agoI find this to be snake-like behaviour.
- 0xfae 3y agoWhich part? Sometimes the right thing to do is to speak up in public and offer a different opinion, sometimes the right thing is to have a private conversation. Maybe I'm misunderstanding, which part do you feel is snake-like?
- stephen_g 3y agoSometimes it’s one of the only ways to deal with difficult people in authority if you don’t want to just blindly accept their authority… As the saying goes, “don’t hate the players, hate the game”
- JohnBooty 3y agoWhat do you consider to be the alternative? Fighting authority is (by definition) an asymmetric battle. There are "honorable" ways to fight authority. Frontal assault, or just plain old disobedience. Sometimes those are the best ways. Sometimes not.
- tyingq 3y agoConsider that forcing people to hear, consider, react and "vote" on something in public might be the "snake like" behavior. Some topics require quiet reflection. Some topics do better with a secret ballot. Some objections are heard better in private, etc. Or, sometimes, it's just poker, and revealing your hand too early puts you at a disadvantage to someone else that's also manipulating the circumstances to benefit themselves. It's all regrettable, but that's the human condition.
- stephen_g 3y agoYeah, that might be the best way to come to an agreement with the statement - I feel I’m very much the same. Plenty of non-spectrum people are ‘playing the game’ in a way that I imagine someone on the spectrum may not even realise is happening. Of course, different people are better or worse at picking up on this, but I find often the people who want to wield arbitrary power are usually worse at picking up subtle manipulation (a pretty strong correlation), and those who aren’t as arbitrary you can be more direct with!