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This may be true in kindergarten, but as he writes: >So another example: an autistic person meets their company’s CEO. They know who they are, but they greet t
by lowbloodsugar 3y ago
This may be true in kindergarten, but as he writes:
>So another example: an autistic person meets their company’s CEO. They know who they are, but they greet them as an equal. They say hi. They crack a Chandler-esque joke. They are relaxed and unfazed by the massive authority that is shrinking their peers down.
>This may be great! The CEO might think, Wow! Here’s a go-getting individual, if they’re nice and positive. But they may also think, Who is this worm with no respect for my status?
I didn't make it of high school (still undiagnosed) without the understanding that many people "in authority" are incompetent, vicious, spiteful authoritarians, and best to avoid authority at all costs because I have no ability to kiss ass even if it seemed like a good idea game-theory wise.
Not all of us. I have a friend who I swear is ASD2 that waltzes up to CEOs all the time, and he seems to do fine. My mind screams "what are you doing????!!!" at him, like he's standing up in a foxhole, drawing fire. YMMV I guess.
Diagnosed last year. In therapy. =)
- noman-land 3y agoThe worm is the insincere kiss-ass, not the person who treats people as equals, no matter what anyone says.
- MisterBastahrd 3y agoThe management class are easy to manipulate and you can either play the game and get ahead, or you can refuse and be angry about the guardrails you erected for yourself. At the end of the day, the only person who is ever going to recognize the sacrifice you made is you, so you better be happy with your choices, because nobody else is going to care.
- generalizations 3y agoWhat price self-respect?
- noman-land 3y agoYou can live an insincere life full of manipulation but pat yourself on the back for "winning". To each their own.
- digging 3y ago> I didn't make it of high school (still undiagnosed) without the understanding that many people "in authority" are incompetent, vicious, spiteful authoritarians, and best to avoid authority at all costs because I have no ability to kiss ass even if it seemed like a good idea game-theory wise. We learn different coping techniques from different experiences. (Also, of course, autism presents differently in everyone.) I often cow before CEOs et al because I sense them to have beliefs of immense self-importance. But internally, I know they're either not more important than me or they're more important in limited, specific ways. If I'm talking or acting in a situation where I don't think I have to appease them, I will talk about them as if they're just an ordinary person... because they are.
- nicoburns 3y agoIn my experience, most CEOs actually like someone who will treat them like an equal and who will give them an honest opinion. It can become hard to come by once you have a position of authority.