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In a neighbouring thread we're talking about "conviviality" (Ivan Illich's "Tools for..." It's an odd word. What I found is that almost every random bore at t
by nonrandomstring 3y ago
In a neighbouring thread we're talking about "conviviality" (Ivan
Illich's "Tools for..."
It's an odd word.
What I found is that almost every random bore at the pub has a wealth
of interesting stuff to say. You just have to tease it out. You have
to work at conversations. It's a bit of a lost art imho.
The first step is always to get the topic off the mainstream (stop
exchanging platitudes) by showing an interest in some marginal
personal remark. Doesn't work for everyone of course. And some people
just don't want to.
Living in Finland I learned the art of just being quiet around others
and that "interesting company" can be hanging out without words, say
just appreciating a walk together.
- boringg 3y agoSo I'm with in theory. People are interesting for the most part. However the amount of work to reward you are describing is tantamount to pulling up hedgerows in zelda for coins. Your not likely to find anything amazing but maybe once in awhile interesting. Again probably depends on the establishment
- hfgjbcgjbvg 3y agoNah if you’re good at it. It can be amazing every time. But like anything, it feels like a lot of work before you get good at it.
- boringg 3y agoAmazing every time? Wouldn't it get redundant?
- hfgjbcgjbvg 3y agoNo because every interaction is different. And yes if that’s your mindset, every time.