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"after a few unsuccessful years on the apps" What does success mean to you exactly? If success is only finding the love of your life and getting married than e
by standardUser 3y ago
"after a few unsuccessful years on the apps"
What does success mean to you exactly? If success is only finding the love of your life and getting married than everything else in your life will be a failure which sounds profoundly depressing.
In those "unsuccessful" years, did you have any fun dates? Interesting sex? Exciting flings? Because connecting with another person in those ways should be considered amazing successes!
- nicgrev103 3y agoI mean very few of the meaningful connections you mention. Versus comparatively many on eHarmony.
- momojo 3y agoOnce on a long road trip back in undergrad, my friend and I ended up thoroughly confusing ourselves by trying to decipher what "success" in dating actually means. 1 date? 10 dates? Marriage? Marriage without a divorce? Marriage despite a divorce? You ask anyone off the street and they'll say "Yeah, of course I want a successful relationship; I don't want an unsuccessful one". But we can't seem to agree on a good definition. We never came to a conclusion on that road trip and I still don't have a satisfying answer. $FLAVOR_OF_THE_WEEK promises "success" implicitly, but we never ask then what they mean by that. Maybe it's really just an opportunity to ask "what do I _really_ want?"