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Also in real life, you get way more information about the other person, than from a mostly fake profile and picture. Literally passing the smell test ...

nuancebydefault 3y ago
Depends on the irl situation. Dance hall: loud music, lot's of alcohol. What's left of the information? The ideal situation is an honest dating selection system. Only if/when it is honest, good combinations for dating emerge. There you have it: dating happens in irl. I can speak from experience that such systems exist(ed) in electronic form.
- hutzlibu 3y ago
  "Depends on the irl situation." Unless we are talking about extreme introverts, I don't think there is a setting where meeting in person is worse, than writing emails/chatting. Dance hall: you can see how the other person dances and moves in real (and you don't have to be drunk, if you don't want to). How she talks, with whom she talks and how. And yes, how she smells, how she talks, how she acts. And if sparks seem to fly both ways, then you can also go outside for a bit to see if it was more than just the ecstasy of the moment. All of this way more direct unfiltered and unmodified information than an online exchange. "The ideal situation is an honest dating selection system." And traditionally this used to be the village dance. Today it is in general mixed, but if you like online dating, then I don't want to talk it out of you. Just that in my experience lots of online romances I witnessed with other persons, turned out to be mostly vaporware, not working in real life.
- LorenPechtel 3y ago
  Yeah. They *used to* exist, but they're more work and the companies can't extract as many dollars so they were eaten and destroyed.
- userinanother 3y ago
  Dating isn’t an interview. It can be but it doesn’t have to be. The less of a formal interview it is the more you get a taste for if you like hanging out with the person.
  - scarface_74 3y ago
    Dating is very much an interview. It doesn’t have to be formal. Whatever that means. But there are things that we hopefully all consider “hard no’s” and is this person worth me putting time in on.

nuancebydefault 3y ago

Depends on the irl situation. Dance hall: loud music, lot's of alcohol. What's left of the information? The ideal situation is an honest dating selection system. Only if/when it is honest, good combinations for dating emerge. There you have it: dating happens in irl. I can speak from experience that such systems exist(ed) in electronic form.

hutzlibu 3y ago
"Depends on the irl situation." Unless we are talking about extreme introverts, I don't think there is a setting where meeting in person is worse, than writing emails/chatting. Dance hall: you can see how the other person dances and moves in real (and you don't have to be drunk, if you don't want to). How she talks, with whom she talks and how. And yes, how she smells, how she talks, how she acts. And if sparks seem to fly both ways, then you can also go outside for a bit to see if it was more than just the ecstasy of the moment. All of this way more direct unfiltered and unmodified information than an online exchange. "The ideal situation is an honest dating selection system." And traditionally this used to be the village dance. Today it is in general mixed, but if you like online dating, then I don't want to talk it out of you. Just that in my experience lots of online romances I witnessed with other persons, turned out to be mostly vaporware, not working in real life.
LorenPechtel 3y ago
Yeah. They *used to* exist, but they're more work and the companies can't extract as many dollars so they were eaten and destroyed.
userinanother 3y ago
Dating isn’t an interview. It can be but it doesn’t have to be. The less of a formal interview it is the more you get a taste for if you like hanging out with the person.
- scarface_74 3y ago
  Dating is very much an interview. It doesn’t have to be formal. Whatever that means. But there are things that we hopefully all consider “hard no’s” and is this person worth me putting time in on.