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You didn’t answer the question which leads me to believe you are an above average height on the bell curve (feel free to let me know otherwise). It is a pretty

You didn’t answer the question which leads me to believe you are an above average height on the bell curve (feel free to let me know otherwise). It is a pretty well documented phenomenon that men with average or below average height are largely excluded from online dating activity. In real life dating of course height is much less of a factor, but for online dating it very much is.

_yb2s 3y ago
Look I am tall and am sure it’s a huge advantage… and in general it would suck to be ignored and excluded based on things you can’t control like height or skin color, and I have unearned privilege of not having to deal with that, other than being bald. But I have a bunch of attractive women friends that are dating short men they met online, and none of those guys are the type to spend their time complaining online about how unfair everything is. Being short is probably a disadvantage, but much much less of one than having a toxic victim attitude towards life.
- mettamage 3y ago
  > Being short is probably a disadvantage, but much much less of one than having a toxic victim attitude towards life. It is not probably a disadvantage. It is one. Other than that, I agree.
mettamage 3y ago
> It is a pretty well documented phenomenon that men with average or below average height are largely excluded from online dating activity. In real life dating of course height is much less of a factor, but for online dating it very much is. I'm not short, but the way I'd go around it is to falsely advertise my height and charm them on the dates. Unethical? Not from a utilitarianistic standpoint if I find my partner through such a lie (the fact that a few dates had to travel to be conned versus years/a lifetime of happiness of two people doesn't compare). Moreover, I'd rather view at is being a rebel against a culture that seems to exclude short men. Given my experience about editing my pictures to make myself look more attractive (and not getting any shit about it), I think I could make it work. There's a sweet spot where you can lie a bit and not get any issues with it. Note: during the first date I stop with any charades I was playing online. Why? Because the weird contortions of online dating are gone. I'm seeing a real person now and she is seeing me in real life too. In reality, I'm honest to a fault with people. However, when it comes to chatting to strangers on dating apps, that's a big exception with some select things (such as how attractive I look or if I'd be short how tall I am). Toxic environments unfortunately need measures that I'd view as terribly toxic in any other circumstance. People that give me an actual fair chance (or are clearly acting based on good faith) get the whole truth. Anyone else doesn't deserve it. The attraction phase of dating sure is different than any other phase. In certain ways it is its inverse (it mostly isn't though, it's mostly the same but some subsections are inversed).

_yb2s 3y ago

Look I am tall and am sure it’s a huge advantage… and in general it would suck to be ignored and excluded based on things you can’t control like height or skin color, and I have unearned privilege of not having to deal with that, other than being bald. But I have a bunch of attractive women friends that are dating short men they met online, and none of those guys are the type to spend their time complaining online about how unfair everything is. Being short is probably a disadvantage, but much much less of one than having a toxic victim attitude towards life.

mettamage 3y ago
> Being short is probably a disadvantage, but much much less of one than having a toxic victim attitude towards life. It is not probably a disadvantage. It is one. Other than that, I agree.

mettamage 3y ago

> It is a pretty well documented phenomenon that men with average or below average height are largely excluded from online dating activity. In real life dating of course height is much less of a factor, but for online dating it very much is. I'm not short, but the way I'd go around it is to falsely advertise my height and charm them on the dates. Unethical? Not from a utilitarianistic standpoint if I find my partner through such a lie (the fact that a few dates had to travel to be conned versus years/a lifetime of happiness of two people doesn't compare). Moreover, I'd rather view at is being a rebel against a culture that seems to exclude short men. Given my experience about editing my pictures to make myself look more attractive (and not getting any shit about it), I think I could make it work. There's a sweet spot where you can lie a bit and not get any issues with it. Note: during the first date I stop with any charades I was playing online. Why? Because the weird contortions of online dating are gone. I'm seeing a real person now and she is seeing me in real life too. In reality, I'm honest to a fault with people. However, when it comes to chatting to strangers on dating apps, that's a big exception with some select things (such as how attractive I look or if I'd be short how tall I am). Toxic environments unfortunately need measures that I'd view as terribly toxic in any other circumstance. People that give me an actual fair chance (or are clearly acting based on good faith) get the whole truth. Anyone else doesn't deserve it. The attraction phase of dating sure is different than any other phase. In certain ways it is its inverse (it mostly isn't though, it's mostly the same but some subsections are inversed).