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> Wait, what? This reads like the classic boomer complaint that is hard to get to know women when you can't slap their ass in the office any more. "No one can t

by pierat 3y ago

> Wait, what? This reads like the classic boomer complaint that is hard to get to know women when you can't slap their ass in the office any more. "No one can take a joke any more, etc etc" No, it's the extremism that's a problem. Men went towards TheRedPill and similar idiots. And especially the younger millennial women and younger have seen this garbage for what it is. However the pendulum swings to compensate. I've heard recently from quite a few places the old radical quote from 2nd wave "sex is always rape because of patriarchal power imbalance". I've also slapped precisely 0 butts in the workplace. Nor have I said the usual shitty "women do _" things. But the problem is so many younger generations's women are overly on guard. Hell, I've had them (at work) ask "don't I look good?", seeking attention. I flatly said that I don't make comments on appearance of men or women. If I wasn't already with someone, I'd likely be with nobody. It's too toxic out there as a man or someone who presents as a man.

johnnyanmac 3y ago
>If I wasn't already with someone, I'd likely be with nobody. How did you end up getting with someone in that case?
- pierat 3y ago
  It was pretty much complete luck, on both our sides. Neither of us were looking for relationships, or sex, or whatever. We've never done any dating apps. We met literally in the Starbucks line. Conversation started up, we both had time and sat down for coffee. It just went from there. We've been together for 10y. Would it happen like that or similar again to either of us? Nope. Nor is it repeatable.
  - johnnyanmac 3y ago
    I see. Indeed very much happenstance. Still it gives me a tiny shred of hope and encourages me to just keep stepping outside even when I don't fully feel like it. If there's some chance encounter where I can find a great friend or even a partner, I don't want to squander it being stuck alone in the house if I can help it.

by pierat 3y ago

johnnyanmac 3y ago

>If I wasn't already with someone, I'd likely be with nobody. How did you end up getting with someone in that case?

pierat 3y ago
It was pretty much complete luck, on both our sides. Neither of us were looking for relationships, or sex, or whatever. We've never done any dating apps. We met literally in the Starbucks line. Conversation started up, we both had time and sat down for coffee. It just went from there. We've been together for 10y. Would it happen like that or similar again to either of us? Nope. Nor is it repeatable.
- johnnyanmac 3y ago
  I see. Indeed very much happenstance. Still it gives me a tiny shred of hope and encourages me to just keep stepping outside even when I don't fully feel like it. If there's some chance encounter where I can find a great friend or even a partner, I don't want to squander it being stuck alone in the house if I can help it.