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Asking out is ok but asking out repeatedly or insisting on any other way may make the venue uncomfortable for both people and thus force one to leave their hobb
by andrei_says_ 3y ago
Asking out is ok but asking out repeatedly or insisting on any other way may make the venue uncomfortable for both people and thus force one to leave their hobby, friends etc.
- DiggyJohnson 3y agoI feel like you’re restating, or at least stating, the obvious takeaway: don’t ask out repeatedly or insist. It’s okay to ask, but learn to take a hint.
- andrei_says_ 3y agoWhat I’m also present to is the additional risk of post-rejection awkwardness while sharing the same community long term. My communities are very valuable to me which makes such an endeavor high stakes. So I thread lightly.
- DiggyJohnson 3y agoYes, there’s always that. It’s always less risky to not express these things, but there’s a world of difference between the risk of embarrassment that comes with rejection, and losing an entire community. Avoiding catastrophe is a skill, and I think it comes with balancing self-confidence / charisma with learning to take the hint, among other things.
- andrei_says_ 3y agoThank you for this, opens possibilities for me.