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The legal and political concepts of sexual harassment come into play in contexts where women can’t just leave (workplace, industry). I don’t think you get fired
by closeparen 3y ago
The legal and political concepts of sexual harassment come into play in contexts where women can’t just leave (workplace, industry). I don’t think you get fired or sued or arrested for asking someone out at soccer or pottery class or running club. But women might not want to be in environments where that keeps happening, and those groups might develop taboos in order to survive.
- andrei_says_ 3y agoAsking out is ok but asking out repeatedly or insisting on any other way may make the venue uncomfortable for both people and thus force one to leave their hobby, friends etc.
- DiggyJohnson 3y agoI feel like you’re restating, or at least stating, the obvious takeaway: don’t ask out repeatedly or insist. It’s okay to ask, but learn to take a hint.
- andrei_says_ 3y agoWhat I’m also present to is the additional risk of post-rejection awkwardness while sharing the same community long term. My communities are very valuable to me which makes such an endeavor high stakes. So I thread lightly.
- DiggyJohnson 3y agoYes, there’s always that. It’s always less risky to not express these things, but there’s a world of difference between the risk of embarrassment that comes with rejection, and losing an entire community. Avoiding catastrophe is a skill, and I think it comes with balancing self-confidence / charisma with learning to take the hint, among other things.
- andrei_says_ 3y agoThank you for this, opens possibilities for me.