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Do you shove everyone into such tiny, restrictive boxes? Romantic partners certainly don't like being told what they should or shouldn't be and do.

• moffkalast 3y ago
  Did the poster above you edit their comment? Asking because your reply is a complete non sequitur.
  • uoaei 3y ago
    Doesn't look like it, and it's not an irrelevant response at all. They generalized across an entire group of people "engineers and tech people" all but insisting that they should value "efficiency" over "effort". I am responding to the generalization and the forced assignment of values for those people (me included) prioritizing certain values over others (I don't). In general such an attitude of "shoulds" goes hand-in-hand with a lack of respect for others expressing complexity, subtlety, nuance, and especially agency in such matters. And also encourages race-to-the-bottom behaviors not just economically but also in social dynamics. It's an antisocial attitude and especially romantic partners lose interest very quickly when people act this way. Source: I was like this once and see it in many techies I know socially. It's a mental shortcut that is common in social settings where techies dominate.