IMHO There are two main problems with social media (and by consequence dating apps) that makes it work very well for a few people but make all the rest suffer m

IMHO There are two main problems with social media (and by consequence dating apps) that makes it work very well for a few people but make all the rest suffer miserably: the first is that it flattens things into one dimension, making it look like a single ranking; the second is that it induces a fake “tabula rasa” feeling, as if everyone had the same opportunities simply because everyone is in the same platform. Both of these things are fundamentally wrong: human beings are multidimensional and there are myriad ways for a person to “shine” other than looks (and different people will perceive you and your multiple characteristics also in totally different ways); and just because someone else succeeded (or failed) by doing something that doesn’t mean you can reproduce the same results. Human society is amazing and social media is a horribly inaccurate “digital twin”.