> In other words, you have to live a minimalist life, without great luxuries, that’s the only way to achieve certain goals. And that’s not to say that other opt

> In other words, you have to live a minimalist life, without great luxuries, that’s the only way to achieve certain goals. And that’s not to say that other options are wrong, this was just the one I decided on. As usual, this is classically wrong. She said that it's the only way to achieve certain goals and it certainly isn't. The r/FATfire subreddit is an example of people who almost never compromise on luxuries. One thing I would mention about the whole FIRE journey is that it needs to be one that both you and your partner are set on. I think a lot of people here on HN (and in the (fat)FIRE world) do get lucky with their spouse and manage to align on that but I find there are far more people out there with FIRE-mentality but not the FIRE-spouse. I've always lacked the FIRE partner. All the women I've met have explicitly told me that they would like to stop working permanently as soon as we had kids. Obviously, I have no issues with this if they have $10m socked away by the time we have kids but they usually have way less money than I do. Sadly, this has made my journey of having a family way more challenging than I could have ever expected. The only couples I know who are on a FIRE journey tend to have met in college or maybe one year after college. It is hard to find women like in the article who are career focused like the overwhelming amount of men are.