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Once a friend in grad school made fun of some todo note I had written down, announcing, "Note to self: Love parents." I don't remember what the note was. I do r
by Jeff_Brown 3y ago
Once a friend in grad school made fun of some todo note I had written down, announcing, "Note to self: Love parents." I don't remember what the note was. I do remember laughing. Later I decided she had a point. Not that I didn't love my parents, but that if I spent more time reflecting on my history and particularly my interpersonal relationships, behaviors that came with difficulty would come more naturally.
- TheRealPomax 3y agoBut then did it? Or did the lack of reminders just make you revert to the original problem of needing reminders of things you'd otherwise simply never think of anymore?
- Jeff_Brown 3y agoI didn't respond to her advice by stopping the reminders. Indeed I didn't respond to her advice at all. But a few years later I developed a writing* habit. The deliberate practice of reviewing my experiences seemed to reduce my need for external reminders. (Causality is hard to prove, but they were contemporaneous, and theory suggests they would be related.) * I'm saying writing, not journaling, because I wasn't always writing about my own experience. Even when I wasn't, though, the impulse for the writing probably usually came from those experiences.