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Just turned 29, any advices?

7 points by msmello 3y ago

yongjik 3y ago
Networking is likely more important than you think. It's not about getting an unfair advantage; it's more like getting an opportunity to show what you're capable of.
- msmello 3y ago
  Thank you, I've been working on that since the last year but unfortunately a few people that I invested on to develop a good relationship just ran away, how to you pick the good apples?
  - yongjik 3y ago
    Lol, I hope your future friends don't have a habit of running away... It's probably not going to work by first finding out a potentially useful person. What I mean is: when you meet people who share a common interest, don't let the relationship die when one moves away, just try to keep in touch. Anyway, I'm an antisocial introvert so maybe I'm not a good person to teach anyone how to network... (shrug)
    - msmello 3y ago
      I'm not an antisocial introvert person but lastly I've been focusing so much on productivity and personal development that all my relationships went to this path of dying slowly since I was not taking care of it.
starbase 3y ago
Have kids while you're still (relatively) young
- msmello 3y ago
  I am dating and the goal is to propose in the end of the year, and have 5 kids along the way.
  - RelativeDelta 3y ago
    Please, by any means necessary, do this. The more we learn about heritability and environment the stronger genetic determinism (at scale) gets. If you are smart and relatively well off (as is your partner) have as many kids as you can. The challenges we face in the coming century require as many of the best and brightest of us as possible.
    - msmello 3y ago
      Got it, I will bring sexy back ;-)
    - tmottabr 3y ago
      PLEASE DON'T.. There is too much people in the world already.. We have all the bright people we need already, we just need to cater and take care for the ones already here.. Until we can get around and have everyone already here feed and sheltered we should stop multiplying like rabbits.. in my opinion 1 kid is enough, 2 kids tops.. that is more then enough to keep us (humanity) around for a long time..
      - RelativeDelta 3y ago
        This is true at the global level, and especially in the 3rd world, but not in the developed societies most of us are living in. The Flynn effect reversed sometime in the mid 80s. The pattern is currently for less educated people and people in worse financial situations to have more children than those more well off. That's significantly concerning given we have extensive evidence genes matter more than environment does in humans: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4270739/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4270739/ It is far more efficient in the long run for that trend to invert, and the average intelligence of the population plays a huge role in facing the challenges of the future successfully. Pretending this is not a significant and increasingly dire problem does nothing but avoid confrontation with hard truths.
        tmottabr 3y ago
shams93 3y ago
In this awful economy I'd be joining the Space Force at 29 to get some income after the tech market was obliterated this year.
- msmello 3y ago
  Common I would preferred to join The Office at least.
andrecarol 3y ago
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jjgreen 3y ago
Don't worry about 30, that's easy. 31 is a bastard though ...
- msmello 3y ago
  Hahaha, LMAO
sysadm1n 3y ago
“I've come up with a set of rules that describe our reactions to technologies: 1. Anything that is in the world when you’re born is normal and ordinary and is just a natural part of the way the world works. 2. Anything that's invented between when you’re fifteen and thirty-five is new and exciting and revolutionary and you can probably get a career in it. 3. Anything invented after you're thirty-five is against the natural order of things.” ― Douglas Adams, The Salmon of Doubt
yuppie_scum 3y ago
Pedantic but my advice is that properly stated you would ask “any advice?” We never say “advices.”
hhthrowaway1230 3y ago
Your health is really all you’ve got in the end. Im healthy but getting older I do feel a difference now than I did before. If i could do it over I would have prioritized it more. Both mental and physical health.
- msmello 3y ago
  This year I started taking care of my health, so I agree w/ you, our foundations are so important.
oldsklgdfth 3y ago
Wear sunscreen.
thiago_fm 3y ago
Don't follow other people's advice. People will tell you whatever they like or has worked for them: have kids, get married, upskill in a certain field or w/e, but there's a small likelihood that this will also work for you. Take charge of your life and stop delegating your choices to other people. You don't need to solve the world's problems, but your own. So many people have kids being mentally not prepared because they have their own sort of issues. They end up adding yet another human being with many issues to this world, which has enough plenty. Don't go work in a field because their family or friends told them to do it. But they end up hating it, or just not really being excited enough about it to succeed at it. And so on. There'll be plenty of people wanting to give advice either for egotistical reasons or to make their own audience (like on social media platforms). But they won't be accountable for your life on your outcomes, you are the only person accountable for yourself. You can read a few books and decide for yourself whether the contents make sense, and if there's anything you would take the risk to follow through. But don't make the mistake of thinking that because of somebody wrote a book about a subject, or because an anonymous post on the internet has a lot of upvotes, that this should also matter to you. You make your own choices, always. The only real tip that should function well for all human beings is taking care of yourself and visiting the doctor regularly: exercise/sports(whatever works for you) and also find some activities to keep your mind happy and working.

7 points by msmello 3y ago

Networking is likely more important than you think. It's not about getting an unfair advantage; it's more like getting an opportunity to show what you're capable of.

msmello 3y ago
Thank you, I've been working on that since the last year but unfortunately a few people that I invested on to develop a good relationship just ran away, how to you pick the good apples?
- yongjik 3y ago
  Lol, I hope your future friends don't have a habit of running away... It's probably not going to work by first finding out a potentially useful person. What I mean is: when you meet people who share a common interest, don't let the relationship die when one moves away, just try to keep in touch. Anyway, I'm an antisocial introvert so maybe I'm not a good person to teach anyone how to network... (shrug)
  - msmello 3y ago
    I'm not an antisocial introvert person but lastly I've been focusing so much on productivity and personal development that all my relationships went to this path of dying slowly since I was not taking care of it.

starbase 3y ago

Have kids while you're still (relatively) young

msmello 3y ago
I am dating and the goal is to propose in the end of the year, and have 5 kids along the way.
- RelativeDelta 3y ago
  Please, by any means necessary, do this. The more we learn about heritability and environment the stronger genetic determinism (at scale) gets. If you are smart and relatively well off (as is your partner) have as many kids as you can. The challenges we face in the coming century require as many of the best and brightest of us as possible.
  - msmello 3y ago
    Got it, I will bring sexy back ;-)
  - tmottabr 3y ago
    PLEASE DON'T.. There is too much people in the world already.. We have all the bright people we need already, we just need to cater and take care for the ones already here.. Until we can get around and have everyone already here feed and sheltered we should stop multiplying like rabbits.. in my opinion 1 kid is enough, 2 kids tops.. that is more then enough to keep us (humanity) around for a long time..
    - RelativeDelta 3y ago
      This is true at the global level, and especially in the 3rd world, but not in the developed societies most of us are living in. The Flynn effect reversed sometime in the mid 80s. The pattern is currently for less educated people and people in worse financial situations to have more children than those more well off. That's significantly concerning given we have extensive evidence genes matter more than environment does in humans: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4270739/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4270739/ It is far more efficient in the long run for that trend to invert, and the average intelligence of the population plays a huge role in facing the challenges of the future successfully. Pretending this is not a significant and increasingly dire problem does nothing but avoid confrontation with hard truths.
      - tmottabr 3y ago

shams93 3y ago

In this awful economy I'd be joining the Space Force at 29 to get some income after the tech market was obliterated this year.

msmello 3y ago
Common I would preferred to join The Office at least.

andrecarol 3y ago

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jjgreen 3y ago

Don't worry about 30, that's easy. 31 is a bastard though ...

msmello 3y ago
Hahaha, LMAO

sysadm1n 3y ago

“I've come up with a set of rules that describe our reactions to technologies: 1. Anything that is in the world when you’re born is normal and ordinary and is just a natural part of the way the world works. 2. Anything that's invented between when you’re fifteen and thirty-five is new and exciting and revolutionary and you can probably get a career in it. 3. Anything invented after you're thirty-five is against the natural order of things.” ― Douglas Adams, The Salmon of Doubt

yuppie_scum 3y ago

Pedantic but my advice is that properly stated you would ask “any advice?” We never say “advices.”

hhthrowaway1230 3y ago

Your health is really all you’ve got in the end. Im healthy but getting older I do feel a difference now than I did before. If i could do it over I would have prioritized it more. Both mental and physical health.

msmello 3y ago
This year I started taking care of my health, so I agree w/ you, our foundations are so important.

oldsklgdfth 3y ago

Wear sunscreen.

thiago_fm 3y ago

Don't follow other people's advice. People will tell you whatever they like or has worked for them: have kids, get married, upskill in a certain field or w/e, but there's a small likelihood that this will also work for you. Take charge of your life and stop delegating your choices to other people. You don't need to solve the world's problems, but your own. So many people have kids being mentally not prepared because they have their own sort of issues. They end up adding yet another human being with many issues to this world, which has enough plenty. Don't go work in a field because their family or friends told them to do it. But they end up hating it, or just not really being excited enough about it to succeed at it. And so on. There'll be plenty of people wanting to give advice either for egotistical reasons or to make their own audience (like on social media platforms). But they won't be accountable for your life on your outcomes, you are the only person accountable for yourself. You can read a few books and decide for yourself whether the contents make sense, and if there's anything you would take the risk to follow through. But don't make the mistake of thinking that because of somebody wrote a book about a subject, or because an anonymous post on the internet has a lot of upvotes, that this should also matter to you. You make your own choices, always. The only real tip that should function well for all human beings is taking care of yourself and visiting the doctor regularly: exercise/sports(whatever works for you) and also find some activities to keep your mind happy and working.