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Can't tell if you're serious. Literally everything on their is either not unique to marriage, or made _worse_ by marriage. I won't go through each nonsense rea

by ghusto 3y ago

Can't tell if you're serious. Literally everything on their is either not unique to marriage, or made _worse_ by marriage. I won't go through each nonsense reason in turn, but this one is pertinent: > Accountability and Conflict Resolution > > Resolution Mechanisms: Marriage often compels couples to work out their differences and disputes in a more committed manner, as there is more at stake. The opposite is true. People take marriage as a binary thing, and over-react to "last straw" situations. They get divorced, and that's the end. People in committed relationships work things out, because there's a whole lot of grey. I've been in a relationship longer than most married couples I know, and I'm still seeing divorces every day at my kids school.

danielmarkbruce 3y ago
Serious. >> Literally everything is not unique to marriage, or made _worse_ by marriage. The words "literally" and"everything" have real meanings. Maybe go through "literally everything". The first two on the list, for example, and consider many different jurisdictions. The cherry picked example is even wrong. In many jurisdictions couples are legally compelled to go to marriage counseling or similar. Australia has it for couples with kids, several US states have it. So there are all the regular reasons to try to resolve things, plus added reasons. The anecdote is nothing more than that. No one is claiming marriage is a cure all for all relationships. No one is claiming only marriages are durable relationships. But the idea that there is no practical reason to get married is absurd. Just making a loud, expensive, public announcement that "I'll do x" is known to make it more likely that you'll do x.
- ghusto 3y ago
  > The words "literally" and"everything" have real meanings They do indeed, and I used them correctly :) > In many jurisdictions couples are legally compelled to go to marriage counseling or similar. Australia has it for couples with kids That's pretty messed up. Really? If you have kids, you are legally required to get married in Australia? I couldn't find anything about that, and I find it difficult to believe. > The anecdote is nothing more than that K, but I still don't see marriage working in my immediate circle, nor wider society. I don't need a scientific study to draw conclusions from that.
  - danielmarkbruce 3y ago
    No no, you are legally required to go to counseling before a divorce. You aren't legally required to get married.

by ghusto 3y ago

danielmarkbruce 3y ago

Serious. >> Literally everything is not unique to marriage, or made _worse_ by marriage. The words "literally" and"everything" have real meanings. Maybe go through "literally everything". The first two on the list, for example, and consider many different jurisdictions. The cherry picked example is even wrong. In many jurisdictions couples are legally compelled to go to marriage counseling or similar. Australia has it for couples with kids, several US states have it. So there are all the regular reasons to try to resolve things, plus added reasons. The anecdote is nothing more than that. No one is claiming marriage is a cure all for all relationships. No one is claiming only marriages are durable relationships. But the idea that there is no practical reason to get married is absurd. Just making a loud, expensive, public announcement that "I'll do x" is known to make it more likely that you'll do x.

ghusto 3y ago
> The words "literally" and"everything" have real meanings They do indeed, and I used them correctly :) > In many jurisdictions couples are legally compelled to go to marriage counseling or similar. Australia has it for couples with kids That's pretty messed up. Really? If you have kids, you are legally required to get married in Australia? I couldn't find anything about that, and I find it difficult to believe. > The anecdote is nothing more than that K, but I still don't see marriage working in my immediate circle, nor wider society. I don't need a scientific study to draw conclusions from that.
- danielmarkbruce 3y ago
  No no, you are legally required to go to counseling before a divorce. You aren't legally required to get married.