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Also a parent; my kids feel much the same. They feel safe and comforted by us; and I think much of it has to do with the way many parents choose to approach par

Also a parent; my kids feel much the same. They feel safe and comforted by us; and I think much of it has to do with the way many parents choose to approach parenting. At least for myself and my partner, it's not the discipline-first approach we were raised with, it's far more of a _socratic_ dialogue with our kids. We openly explore why things are being done the way they are, why there are certain expectations. It's as much about understanding as it is about helping them feel like they have some measure of influence, control, and responsibility over themselves. And then I see the kids of parents who take a more traditional approach, and those are the kids that are dodging their parents' oversight, and acting out at school, and generally trying to find a way to assert or discover some feeling of control and responsibility in their life.

zdragnar 3y ago
I'm right between gen x and millennial. My parents never spanked or yelled. Discipline, when required, was a conversation. As a teenager, I wouldn't have wanted to be tracked, except when I went on long (20+ mile) bike rides through the countryside, and that would only have been because I went alone. On trips to town or spending time with friends, that would have felt like a millstone. There's definitely more to it than parenting style.
- pixl97 3y ago
  Right around the same age, maybe a year or two older. Your parents most likely watched the news at 6 and 10, it wasn't long after this news became a 24 hour thing for almost everyone. Then a personal thing as you were getting news on a device on your body at all hours. Toss in a little 9/11 of America getting attacked, and between the two we've created a culture that is a lot more afraid.
  - zdragnar 3y ago
    That was pretty much my point- parenting style isn't enough to explain the difference. Then again, I grew up in Wisconsin, which had to go through all the coverage of Jeffery Dahmer. Stranger Danger was a very real thing for a lot of people.

zdragnar 3y ago

I'm right between gen x and millennial. My parents never spanked or yelled. Discipline, when required, was a conversation. As a teenager, I wouldn't have wanted to be tracked, except when I went on long (20+ mile) bike rides through the countryside, and that would only have been because I went alone. On trips to town or spending time with friends, that would have felt like a millstone. There's definitely more to it than parenting style.

pixl97 3y ago
Right around the same age, maybe a year or two older. Your parents most likely watched the news at 6 and 10, it wasn't long after this news became a 24 hour thing for almost everyone. Then a personal thing as you were getting news on a device on your body at all hours. Toss in a little 9/11 of America getting attacked, and between the two we've created a culture that is a lot more afraid.
- zdragnar 3y ago
  That was pretty much my point- parenting style isn't enough to explain the difference. Then again, I grew up in Wisconsin, which had to go through all the coverage of Jeffery Dahmer. Stranger Danger was a very real thing for a lot of people.