> why does it matter if a relationship is real if the person is happy and mentally healthy? If it does lead to happy, healthy people—maybe it isn't bad. Howev

> why does it matter if a relationship is real if the person is happy and mentally healthy? If it does lead to happy, healthy people—maybe it isn't bad. However, I don't have any expectation that it would result in happy or healthy people, and a reasonably strong belief that it would result in the opposite.