> I read half way through, enough to get the sense. What the guy is missing is the difference between “it bothers me” and it matters. It bothers me often means

> I read half way through, enough to get the sense. What the guy is missing is the difference between “it bothers me” and it matters. It bothers me often means "it matters to me." Sometimes it is a signal of something bigger. Other times... it's just me. And it is hard to know the difference.