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If you're in a happy committed relationship why not make a declaration that you'll remain in it even if at some point you are not happy? It's a good move becau
by hackeraccount 3y ago
If you're in a happy committed relationship why not make a declaration that you'll remain in it even if at some point you are not happy? It's a good move because if both parties make that commitment (they could do it in public to increase the pressure to keep it) there's a better chance that there will in fact be long term happiness.
Or as Shakespeare would say, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet."
- Fire-Dragon-DoL 3y agoPersonal perspective from stable 15 years long relationship, 2 children, not married. Because it's a farce. There is nothing permanent or guaranteed from marriage, so all that's left is commercialization of my affection, which is not for me, and a big bill which can be used for other life goals which I find more appealing. I won't go into more details for the "ceremonial part", because there is an alternative: sign a piece of paper harshly and be done. This is cheap and effective, sharing finances simplify managing them and in case of medical emergencies you are "allowed in" as husband/wife. Here, Canada, after living together for 1 year it's equivalent to being married, so we have literally lost any incentive to do so: we can skip all legal costs. Actually we joke about it, saying "I'll merry you" in moments of affection, but that's about it.
- red-iron-pine 3y agosocial and economic expectations that come with making the marriage happen, and then the social and legal challenges if/when it ends. common law rules are quite strong where I live, so there isn't really much of a reason to jump through those hoops. needless effort, familial drama, legal wrangling, and for what? doesn't mean they'll love me more or less. doesn't mean they're more likely to put away the dishes, or get paid more.