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Getting married forces difficult confrontations that many relationships get to bypass by breaking up. If you make it through the difficult confrontations your
by mensetmanusman 3y ago
Getting married forces difficult confrontations that many relationships get to bypass by breaking up.
If you make it through the difficult confrontations your relationship gains robustness and is better for your offspring.
- ghusto 3y agoI find it's the opposite. Marriages break up because it's a binary thing; they either get through the "last straw", or they get divorced. Contrast that with people in committed relationships who have a sea of grey to work with, and eventually make it work when it could have been a divorce if they were married. I have no data, but I'd bet there are more 40 year olds in relationships of over 20 years than there are married people.
- mensetmanusman 3y agoMarriage as an institution is mostly about offspring. A sea of grey might be where children drown.
- lazide 3y agoHo man. Clearly you’ve never sat in family court for any length of time. Marriage turns dysfunctional dynamics from small time private affairs into society mediated wars of attrition. It stops nothing and magnifies the damage and misery one party can inflict on another in worst case scenarios. A typical Silicon Valley contested divorce costs $250-450k, and 5-10 years before it concludes last I checked.
- mensetmanusman 3y agoJudging the institution by its edge cases may put blinders on one’s conclusion.
- lazide 3y agoIgnoring an institutions (common) edge cases will definitely put blinders on one’s conclusions.