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A sub note is that happy married parents do better. Happy, married and engaged parents. The disengaged parent does much much harm. Like someone who had a fathe
by langsoul-com 3y ago
A sub note is that happy married parents do better. Happy, married and engaged parents.
The disengaged parent does much much harm. Like someone who had a father who was never engaged and, growing up, he felt he missed that father figure, got into trouble, rebelled and, now as a father, is terrified of inflicting the same wounds onto his son.
- usefulcat 3y ago> now as a father, is terrified of inflicting the same wounds onto his son Anyone who at least has that worry is still way ahead of those who had an absentee father (or parent) and doesn't think it caused them any harm even though it obviously did. I've met both kinds.
- ajju 3y agoWorking hard to ensure you don’t repeat the mistakes of your parents already makes you a good parent - one who cares and strives. I worry too, especially about the weaknesses I share with one of my parents. Occasionally though, I find that my inward focus on my concern about a mistake I might make causes me to focus less on my kid or his concerns in an important moment. Since I learned this, I try to be present enough to react to life while it’s happening, instead of ricocheting painful memories while life is happening! The good news is that loving parents who strive to continuously do better serve as a good example for their kids, even when they fail. Life is hard and full of failures. Even when you fail, and even if you fail frequently, showing your kid that you’ll keep striving to do better - now that may be the most valuable lesson of them all.