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This argument is non sequitor. If wealth inequality was the problem, couples would be forced by economics to work together to bring in more together than they c

This argument is non sequitor. If wealth inequality was the problem, couples would be forced by economics to work together to bring in more together than they could separately and to share resources like housing to reduce costs.

FrustratedMonky 3y ago
You think this isn't happening? The problem is now even dual incomes are not enough. So when squeezed, guess what, people get stressed and start crumbling.
actionfromafar 3y ago
Yes, if people are perfectly spherical economic machines.
lapcat 3y ago
From the article: > many women don't marry the father of their child not because they reject the concept of marriage, but because they do not see him as a reliable source of economic security or stability. If you think of marriage as purely a business partnership, would you go into business with someone who is unreliable? It's better to be a sole proprietorship than have your entire business brought down by a bad partner, where both partners are liable for the bad partner's actions and decisions.
- em-bee 3y ago
  the partnership started the moment they decided to have a child. so why even have a child with someone who is unreliable?
  - lapcat 3y ago
    > the partnership started the moment they decided to have a child. Assuming they "decided". > so why even have a child with someone who is unreliable? Because you want a child? Sperm donor.
  - angmarsbane 3y ago
    Because women have a limited window to have children and have to work with the options available. A woman can’t put off kids indefinitely waiting for partners to stabilize financially, emotionally etc.
    - em-bee 3y ago
      that window is at least 20 years wide. if it's not possible to find a reliable partner in that time then the world is in a very sorry state. i accept that it can be difficult, and that people can be blinded by love but if i already know that a person is unreliable enough that i don't want to marry them, then why have a child from them?

FrustratedMonky 3y ago

You think this isn't happening? The problem is now even dual incomes are not enough. So when squeezed, guess what, people get stressed and start crumbling.

actionfromafar 3y ago

Yes, if people are perfectly spherical economic machines.

lapcat 3y ago

From the article: > many women don't marry the father of their child not because they reject the concept of marriage, but because they do not see him as a reliable source of economic security or stability. If you think of marriage as purely a business partnership, would you go into business with someone who is unreliable? It's better to be a sole proprietorship than have your entire business brought down by a bad partner, where both partners are liable for the bad partner's actions and decisions.

em-bee 3y ago
the partnership started the moment they decided to have a child. so why even have a child with someone who is unreliable?
- lapcat 3y ago
  > the partnership started the moment they decided to have a child. Assuming they "decided". > so why even have a child with someone who is unreliable? Because you want a child? Sperm donor.
- angmarsbane 3y ago
  Because women have a limited window to have children and have to work with the options available. A woman can’t put off kids indefinitely waiting for partners to stabilize financially, emotionally etc.
  - em-bee 3y ago
    that window is at least 20 years wide. if it's not possible to find a reliable partner in that time then the world is in a very sorry state. i accept that it can be difficult, and that people can be blinded by love but if i already know that a person is unreliable enough that i don't want to marry them, then why have a child from them?